I've not spoken to my close female friend for 3 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. SHE ONLY WANTED TO BE FRIENDS!
We MET ON FRIDAY at a friends party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
I apologised for hurting her i.e. wanting no contact - she snaped bck saying YOU NEVER HURT ME! GOOD/BAD RESPONSE??
I asked her if she'll join us on our group roadtrips - she said YES! - A POSITIVE SIGN OF FRIENDSHIP RESTARTING???
As she left I said that hopefully/possibly see you in a few months -she replied I'll see you at the roadtrip - we said bye and she gave me a tight hug - ANOTHER POSITIVE SIGN???
She needed a hug from my mate as it was too much for her to take in!
IS THE FRIENDSHIP REALLY LOST???Why she hurt???
2007-02-20 00:36:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just want friendship-nothing more.....not interested in a romantic relationship..........
2007-02-20 00:37:42 · update #1
OK, number1, she only wanted to be friends, something tells me ur not saying it like it is, anyway, her response YOU NEVER HURT ME was a bad one, i would think that u hurt her, but then again I'm thinking about my own outbursts of you never hurt me, knowing that they really meant the opposite. I would have meant no when I said yes, you should have asked for a more concrete answer, as for a pos, i don't know. if it were me i would say yes. maybe when she said she wanted friendship, she meant the other kind, knowing that tow peoples being friends in the right sense could look romantic and sometimes be quite romantic, maybe she wanted a relationship with you but her response wasn't quite what you would expect and the translation got lost. I though you said you were done with his question. lastlyi think that u both need time to translate the meeting again. u sound hopeful of something, she sounded all over the place, sounds like seeing u took her off gaurd and she did not know how to respond, so became scatter brained and somewhat odd, the hug might be a hug goodbye, wait for the roadtrip and see. most of all ask her. ask her if everything is ok and if she is cool with seeing you etc. sorry my response is not a good advert for women but u know how to pick them and we have to look at all angles here.
2007-02-21 07:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by windbag 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that this is rather too much for her to go thru. She is your close friend and why on earth do you need a gap in between. I just dun understand your intention. A friend in need is a friend indeed! Have you heard of this quote before? You dun have to treat her like a piece of trash. If you dun intend to have a friendship with her just tell her off and dun hurt your friend more. She is genuine. She cares for you no matter how many months you have kept her waiting. This is called the true friendship. Dun play with people's feelings.
2007-02-20 08:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_gal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she really misses your friendship. Tell her you were wrong to stop contact and that you miss being her friend. Don't talk to her about your "feelings" for her anymore. Work on that, on your own time. Be nice, have fun and hug when you both feel like it. Maybe, eventually, she will change her mind about you and want a romantic relationship, but be patient and just enjoy your friendship for now.
2007-02-20 08:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwww ! yes it is stil their and by the sounds of things she wants 2 make up 4 the friendship that you cancelled out !! dont jump it at the deep end !! take things 1 step at a time !! good luck :D x
2007-02-20 21:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello friend. thank you for giving me an opportunity to answer this.
actually, girls are quite reactive. i think that she is loving you. be careful with girls. they change quickly. you should have not asked her to join you in the roadtrip. this may make her romance grow. never allow her to hug you. then be quite strict with her. don't allow her to have to much of yours.
2007-02-20 09:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push she tex her now and then with a funny joke if she is serious about going on the road trips get her to be involved in the planning and see where it goes from there.
2007-02-20 08:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop posting the same bloody question!! I still don't understand a word of it
2007-02-20 08:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dolly 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think before anyone spends their time answering this question they click on his name and scan through his 123 questions.... all very similar to this one... there are alot of repeats....either he has no idea how to cope with women or he just wants attention... maybe if we ignore him he will go away....
2007-02-20 14:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋