Ok so say YOU started seein some1 & u connected right from the start u thought they were perfect & visa versa. But the other person wasn't lookin 4 a proper relationship at that stage. (I know some of u will say that is bulls***t! but it does happen I hav felt like that b4 as u just feel that u don't want to hav to answer to anyone & u just don't want to feel tied down at that stage no matter how well u get on wit that person! But what if in the process of u 2 bein 2gether that person messed u about due to the fact that they were confused about what they wanted due to thier inability to commit at the time & in the process hurt u. Would YOU when movin on intend to never b with that person again? Due 2 the fact that they messed u about & didn't put u 1st priority? I went my seperate way and a few months has gone, he has been callin me every 1 to 2 weeks & is now tryin to win me back. Do I take him back? even though he took a big risk by loosing me b4?
2007-02-20 00:36:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We went out for a drink as I hadn't seen him in awhile and he was saying etc, that he wants to give things ago etc, and that he always had plans but he wasn't in the frame of mind for a relationship back then and that wouldn't have been fair to me. But he wants us to give things ago? Do I give things ago, knowing that he didn't hold onto me and make me 1st priority in the past? Help!
2007-02-20 00:38:44 · update #1
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2007-02-20 00:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question in the first few sentences. He wasn't ready at the stage you guys met. You knew that, he admitted that to you, but you still took part in something that wasn't based on a solid foundation, and with no legs to stand on, it was soon to crumble. Who do you blame? I blame the two of you. You both however were physically attracted to one another (or for other reasons) but the commitment wasn't there yet. If in fact he hurt you, what were you expecting if he told you that he wasn't ready? Now, it would be a different story if he told you that he was ready and that he hurt you in that process, but according to you, that's not how it happened. Its sounds like you put your eggs in one basket from the beginning with this guy and he only took what you gave him at the time. That doesn't make it right, but the two of you are still to blame. The question here is what do you want at this stage where this guy is now willing to take the steps in making a relationship work with you. You are hurt from what he did, but can you forgive him based upon how you met and the circumstances surrounding that at the time? I haven't heard you say that you may have been hasty in your decision making process, it appears that you are only blaming him. My suggestion, if you want to honestly give it a try, by all means, try it. If he was honest from the beginning, then I feel he is being honest now by telling you that he wants to be with you. The decision is yours, hopefully this time you will make the right one.
2007-02-20 08:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on what type of things he did that messed with you. It also depends on what he told you. If you already knew he wasn't looking for a relationship at that time, then I would say "go ahead and give it a try". I mean, you can't fault the guy for anything if he told you up front that he didn't want a relationship. You knew what you were getting into...or did you?
2007-02-20 08:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mikala M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. He was unsure at first, now he thinks differently. Guys just like girls can be flakey with their feelings. It is too early to determine if he will commit or not. Maybe he feels differently toward you now and wants to commit to you. Don't be afraid of being hurt. Guys and girls are often scared to commit, this is natural. I wouldn't assume anything yet it is too early. You really need to just let things play out and see what happens.
2007-02-20 08:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can sometimes be wonder, but other times it can be a b**ch. What you really need to do is look into yourself, is someone who hurt you before really worth hutring you again? People do change, and everyone deserves a second chance. Really though I shouldn't be telling your on how to trust ppl. Still, I think that when it comes down to it he probably loves you inside. So give him another shot.
2007-02-20 08:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bart H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i must say it a hard question to answer just that simple but coming to you is something and i think you really really love him
and i think that you are very sensitive so i want you to give a small chance to talk THINK WITH YOUR HEAD NOT WITH YOUR HART and hear him out and be the judge i know you well do the right thing
2007-02-20 10:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by midoo M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Never go back. You are smart and you take the best decision. You are strong and can move on. Don't let anyone make you doubt that.
2007-02-20 09:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, why not? but don't have any expectations... have fun, be friends, enjoy each others company.. don't pass up any other good man who may come along though... u are not married, u do not necessarily need to be exclusive... u may want to , but don't close urself off to other prospective's... remember, the greatest love is when ur want for each other over comes your need for each other...
2007-02-20 08:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about the other man .how do you feel about him. going good. is he 2 playing with you.give it a little more time. i just think your hurt and a bit mad.true love is hard to find. so if you have that with your ex . then go for it . do it to it
2007-02-20 08:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your feelings are really strong for this guy, i would give him another chance. maybe he was really scared of his feelings and needed some space. but please be cautions because there is a good chance he will hurt you again you would question yourself if you did'nt give him another chance so go for it and see what happens what do you have to lose?
2007-02-20 08:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by shortyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he could not commit back then...what makes you think he can now?
That is a warning sign to me.
It's a matter of character.
2007-02-20 08:48:52 · answer #11 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋