Looks u still like to keep ur emotions to ur self and really dont want or like anyone caring for u.I dont know seeing this if I will ever be successful in my mission.I try to go forward u try to oppose and not work with me.Its sad U dont see what is good for u and ur family.I do hope u will change ur attitude to a positive one and also take advantage of the time u r here. If u have anything to say, say upfront.Wish U wud be more open to me and speak ur mind I am sure it will help u.I dont understand whether u want to work or not.By just being negative about your ex-husband is not going to help.Look at his positive sides too weigh and see.Consider working with me as therapy. You need it.
My ex-husband has moved due to job reasons and I came to take care of our 14 year old daughter. I live in another state. My mother-in-law and daughter were pushing me to come.
She has sent me above in an e-mail though.
2007-02-20 00:22:55 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well all she's doing is buttering you up so that you will not hate your ex and his family and she thinks talking about it with her and knowing what happened will make it right. Well if you live in another state why don't you just have your daughter move to where you ae and not come and stay here by them. It would be a lot easier if you just came and got your daughter and went back and nnot have to put up with your ex mother-in-law. She means good but I wouuldn't go there with her. It seems like she thinks you need couseling for some reason and I wouldn't tell her nothing she coulds use against me later.
2007-02-20 00:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last guy is right. She'll change or not. Like he said you can tell her to change or she won't see grandchildren. That isn't fair that she hurts other peoples feelings. If that doesn't work always make sure you're husband and other people around. If you're in public she is less likely to have an outburst then if it was just you and her. If your having a visit go to a public fast-food or something. If you don't feel like that is a good idea then let her withdraw from your and your husband's lives. You would have no problem left of her.
2016-05-23 22:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she is your EX mother in law. She has no business telling you anything anymore. Second why would she be interested in how you and your ex handle your lives. You just need to tell her how you feel. I would email her back and just explain to her that you appreciate that she is concerned and you know that you and her will, from time to time, see each other because of your daughter, BUT it is not her business to tell you what you need to do. Good luck!
2007-02-20 00:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she wants to help and have a more civil relationship with you, although her wording could have been a lttle better. She wants you to be able to talk to her. If she wants you to speak your mind, by all means, do so. She may not like what she hears, but at least everything will be out in the open.
2007-02-20 01:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your EX-mother-in-law? So technically this woman really isn't anything to you anymore and how you live your life isn't any of her business, correct? You are the only person who can make decisions about what goes on in your life, or inside of your head. Tell her to piss off.
2007-02-20 00:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what her point is. If I were you, I would not deal with her at all. That last statement is so totally rude--- "You need it." Who is she to tell you that you need therapy? Send her an e-mail back telling her not to send you any e-mails anymore. What does she mean by "working with her"?
2007-02-20 00:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Edith Piaf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show her you can be independant and yes tell her how you feel don't let her intimidate you .Also say you don't need therapy as you know exactly what caused the marraige break up and it is her who needs to move on not you .
2007-02-20 00:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by londonletch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she actually cares what happens to you or at least what happens to her granddaughter. And I think she has a legitimate reason to be concerned. What kind of mother lives in a different state then their 14 year daughter? What kind of mother puts her 14 year old daughter in a position where she has to "push" her mother to come and take care of her?
What kind of person are you?
2007-02-20 00:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Tell her to mind her own business, or simply don't respond. I've yelled at my mother in law. I've yelled at my dad, too. Parents (of grown children) aren't in charge anymore. You aren't allowed to but into their business, are you?
2007-02-20 01:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her- she's not your mother in law. Your time of having to deal with her is over!
2007-02-20 00:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Alison 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋