hello again people! i have a slite problem! my husband and i have been married for five months now and he does not seem to want to touch me. well last week his brother moved in with us. his brother frank came to work with me because i work in a home where i can bring people with me and any ways when we(frank and i)got home we talked for a little while and then went up to my husbands and my bedroom and had sex. my husband don't know. he said that if i were to ever do something like that he would forgive me but i just cann't tell him that i did this! he has only touched me three times sence we got married. please give me some advice!
2007-02-20 00:11:18 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, did you even wash the sheets? You should at least do that.
If you guys split-up, he now holds all the cards. Don't feel bad, 83% of people cheat on their partners. But your messing up your family, & your husbands family... You know he's going to find out, you should tell him sooner than later.
This is your question from a few months ago...
What is wrong with me?
okay, heres the thing...i am going to the bathroom every 10-20 mins. i m tired all the time. im moody. im sore all the time. my husband cant even touch me unless i hit him or yell at him and i cry at stupid little things and it is starting to p*** me off. can anyone tell me what is wrong with me please?
I think you have a problem, If you yell & hit me..... I wouldn't touch you either. Then I read your other question and see that your pregnant... Your Pregnant & having sex with his brother? Thats just down right evil, you have a few screws loose or something. Seek help. Do you know who the father is?
2007-02-20 00:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I Think YOU KNOW this was very Wrong* No matter if your husband hasn't touched you in quite sometime..You NEVER EVER EVER Cheat on your spouse* WOW...do you realize what a dangerous game you just played??, especially with your husbands Brother*....Blood is thicker than water...meaning...at some point...the brother will let it out to your husband that you both slept together. It may not be today, it may not be in a year...but trust me your secret will come out*...How would YOU Feel if at some point YOU found out that your husband slept with your sister(if you had one) or slept with anyone else??
I would call this more than a slight problem...You've really put yourself into a bind* As for his brother (Frank)....what kind of a person does this to his brother?? Sounds like you have a major problem and not sure how you're going to get out of this one. Your husband says to you if you ever did something like that he would forgive you.....I doubt that very much*
Have you ever asked your husband WHY you both havent slept together intimately in quite sometime?? My goodness, you've only been married 5months...There's more going on with the two of you...GOODLUCK TO YOU*~
2007-02-20 08:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brother in-law now has something that he can use against you at anytime of your marriage.
Your husband not touching you is not an excuse for cheating on him...your husband may have a medical problem or something else maybe going on.
You should have had a talk with him and ask if everything is ok.
Now you really screwed up, if he finds out he would never forgive you...I tell you one thing if my husband cheated with my sister and I found out...he would be out the door!
My advise is to pray that his brother want tell and dont ever do that again.....
2007-02-20 08:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Grogan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is wrong and you know it is wrong or you would not be asking. This is cheating and adultery. Tell your husband what you have done and ask him to forgive you . If you dont the guilt of this will eat you up and you wont be able to live with yourself. You really need to seek counseling and help for you and for your marriage with your husband to try and work things out in your marriage. Why is his brother sleeping with you? That is not very much of a brother if you ask me. If you cannot tell your husband in person then take both of the guys on the Dr Phil show or even the Jerry Springer show.
2007-02-20 08:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Christina. You know the actuation of your husband is not normal because ordinary newly wed couple have sex almost everyday for at least a week or two. It is not normal to tell your wife that i would be ok if you will have sex to another man, meaning he does not love you that much. For me, i would also do that if i do not love my wife and the reason of doing it is to wait until my wife makes the first wrong move. Of course this is only my own opinion. However, what you did is not also normal for a newly wed lady. You know what? this problem of yours would definitely be strained and you will severe your marriage sooner. Try to communicate with him and encourage him to relate or talk anything under the heat of the sun. You should do this only if you are opting to save your marriage. But don't you ever dare telling him that you had sex with his brother, surely this would be a reason for him to severe your marriage and it would turn out that you were the one who is at fault. Think!
2007-02-20 08:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious!!!!!! damn what is his problem hun. i feel for you really i do. and yes what you did is wrong but you are not entirely to blame here. your husbands apathy has made you vulnerable to situations like this. it makes me wonder how things were before you guys got married. did he make a drastic change overnight or was he never interested in sex and if so then why did you marry him. you need to sit him down and bare your feelings to him. tell him what your needs are cos he obviously doesnt know or maybe he just doesnt care. alot of hard work goes into a sucessful marriage. maybe these are just ''teething '' problems considering you guys are newly weds. but so early into your marriage he should be all over you. and please dont tell him what transpired between you and his brother at least not right now anyway. this bit of infomation given to him too soon may push him further away from you. rather wait til you can strengthen your bond. anyway i wish you all the best and please keep us informed i,d love to know whats happening lots of love take care
2007-02-20 08:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by DurbanBeauty D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally wrong? or Religiously wrong? There are many definitions of wrong, but if you ask me, sleeping with someone besides your partner in a monogamous relationship is wrong. Now, don't misunderstand me, I am not judging you. I can totally see why everything happened the way it did. I think that you need to talk to your husband and be honest with him. Communication is a important foundation to any relationship. If you had talked with him before this event, it might not have happened. I know you said he is forgiving, but it may be a different story since it is his brother, so be prepared for any reaction he might have.
2007-02-20 08:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people say they'd forgive and forget, but don't ever forgive and forget. This could end your marrige especially because it is his brother. You should definately talk to him about why he doesn't want to be intimate with you. I normally would not suggest you tell your husband if you want to save your marrige, but being that it was his brother, his brother lives with you, and the lack of amore on his part, I suggest you tell him because it is bound to come out anyway.
2007-02-20 09:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all have issues.. Sure I didn't hear this on the Jerry Springer Show? Therapy is my # 1. choice for you.. Maybe your husband needs to find out why he's not sexually active. Was he that way before marriage? We don't live in your household.. Talk to a licensed therapist..
2007-02-20 08:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with your husband and find out why, talk to him, but yes it was wrong sleeping with his brother. I can understand why you did, and I hate to say if things don't work out the way you want with your husband, try going to a marriage counsler and if that does not work, move on. you deserve to be treated with respect. and for a man who will pay attention to you.
2007-02-20 08:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋