oh god... ok, here is the situation, my friend just called me up right,and pretty upset! ... her and her boyfriend have lived together for about a year now and have been seeing one another a little bit over a year... I need some help in order to help her... maybe a guys opinion, or someone who understand the situation? I'm not quite sure how to answer this ordeal.
She called me up stating that (supposabley her and her boyfriend have been doing really well, and I am a really good friend of hers, so I would most likely feel something going on if there had been), but I guess she was having an insecure moment and his wallet happened to be sitting on the desk, so she picked it up and went through it (whatever ok, it's not about that), anyhow, About 5 or 6 months ago, he had asked her to write down her measurements for him.well, she never did, again they Live together!, it wouldn't be Hard for him to find out! .... Anyhow, she found a really small piece of paper w/ measurements on it ...
2007-02-20 00:05:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anyway... THEY ARE NOT HERS!!!!!..
I have NO IDEA! what to tell her, nor what to think about it!, especially since, AT LEAST IT SEEMS SO?, That he is super happy being with her???... Augh!.. help me to help her out here! ... b/c I have No Idea! what to tell her... I myself wouldn't like it.....
Oh, and she also had told me, a long time ago, that she told him to clean out everything he had that was his exes and he said he had and that he had gone through everything and it was done! she had found a couple of things by accident laying around he hadn't thought about, so she told him again later... so twice now! ... this is why I'm SOO Concerned! for her!...
What am I suppose to think here????........
CRAP! .... :-/
2007-02-20 00:09:36 · update #1
SHE CALLED ME! PEOPLE!... I AM HER BEST FRIEND!... GET A CLUE! ... I DON'T WANT TO SEE THEM BREAK UP!... BUT I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO THINK ABOUT IT MYSELF! ... AND IF I DON'T HAVE A GOOD ANSWER FOR IT EITHER, WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK IS GOING TO HAPPEN!??....
DO YOU NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS WHEN THEY COME TO YOU WITH A PROBLEM!??...
GOOD GRIEF TO THOSE WHO JUST DON'T CARE ENOUGH ABOUT THEIR FRIENDS OBVIOUSLY.....
2007-02-20 00:12:47 · update #2
QUESTION IS SIMPLE:
NUMBER 1) IT IS APPARENTLY OBVIOUS THEY ARE MEASURAMENTS, S THEY SAID A CUP SIZE, NOT HERES, SHOE SIZE, NOT HERS, UNDERWEAR SIZE, NOT HERS, TOP SIZE, RING SIZE... ALL THESE NOT HER SIZE ON ANYYY OF THEM!......
WHAT IS SHE SUPPOSE TO THINK ABOUT THIS???.... WHY THE HECK WOULD THAT KIND OF THINK BE IN HIS WALLET, HE KNOWS HER SIZES, HE COULD LOOK INSIDE THE CLOSET AND FIND THAT OUT!...
THAT'S WHAT......
2007-02-20 00:15:52 · update #3
NEXT DAY:
She told him Immediately that she had found this in his wallet, and I'm not sure either... He gave a lame excuse that it was his exes measurements, the girl he dated before her, I'm not so sure about that one???.... Especially since she had told him 3 or 4 times now to get rid of ALL of the Major sh*t that would be around that had to Actually do with that, such as pictures, phone numbers, and memorabilia type of crap from Any and All Relationships from beforehand (look they got Serious! super quickly, He Expected the same from her as well!) ... Anyway .... Not sure after all of that how true it REALLY CAN BE??? Do You?... Besides, she told me he acted super cool calm to her, he's naturally a calm person anyhow, but still?.... He said he would have been Just As Pissed off if it had been reversed, etc?...
Sh*t... what do you think!???.......
2007-02-20 09:22:37 · update #4
Whew! I say that you tell your friend to just ask him. Life is too short to be sitting at home pissed off because she can't figure out what is going on. All that anger or sadness inside her is hurting her more than it is him (or you for that matter). This should be a matter for them, but obviously she called you for a reason. She is probably really upset about this. You just need to tell her to calm down and rationally ask him about it. Now she also needs to apologize for going thru his wallet. My husband never goes thru my purse and I don't go thru his wallet. She just needs to talk to him about it. It could be something so simple that she shouldn't be getting worked up about. Good luck!!
2007-02-20 01:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all and most important here is she needs to respect his privacy and show some trust. My husband and I had an understanding, I "NEVER" went into his wallet and he "NEVER" went into my purse unless it was and I mean a dire emergency. It wasn't about secrets it was about having a life together and maintaining some privet space. No kids, spouses allowed. As for these measurements perhaps he looked at her jeans, T-shirts, dresses, under garments and calculated for himself what he thought her measurements are. If their so "happy" then she should be discussing this with him and not you anyway. She'll be in enough trouble after he finds out she went through his wallet, but more so when he finds out she came to you and not him. And he "WILL" find out. If "anyone" and I do mean "anyone" has to live in doubt, they have a bad relationship or a serious problem, either way they "she" needs to deal with whatever issue caused her to doubt him in the first place. But she needs to address this problem with him and not you. If your her friend you'll tell her this and back off, stay out of it. If you give her the wrong advice it could blow up in your face and destroy your friendship.
2007-02-20 00:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, believe me if I were her, I would be really upset too! But, I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt.... Maybe he asked a woman who looked about the same size as her for her measurements so he could buy his girlfriends some clothes or something. Wait, why did he ask your friend for her measurements?
2007-02-20 00:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you % to help your chum...the perfect thank you to try this could be to tell her to ask her b/chum approximately it. If he freaks bout her goin in his wallet....which he probable will...yet he will nevertheless could answer WHY he has those measurements in his wallet. appears like he's obsessed via peoples sizes from head to toe. despite if he replaced into cheating on her...who does this? under no circumstances heard of this in the previous to maintain ppls "sizes" on in simple terms slightly paper. a minimum of she did not locate lipstick stains or telephone numbers...or maybe it quite is a telephone sort in code* WHO is familiar with?? All you're able to do is be there to your chum and tell her verbal substitute HONESTY AND have confidence are keys to an prolonged healthful dating. without those..you have not something* She desires to ask him on the instant up what's this?? see what clarification he supplies her....regardless of the undeniable fact that...it quite is going to likely be a remember if she trusts/believes what he tells her.
2016-12-17 14:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by zabel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was my friend, my advice would be for her to ask him about it. Confess she went in his wallet, there's no way around that. And just ask who's measurements they are. And he'd better have a d@mn good answer, too. Sounds like he's buying gifts for another woman, to be perfectly honest. Why else would he need measurements?
2007-02-20 01:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the question here... if she thinks its another women's measurements, then she should just ask who's measurements they are. Or just wait it out, they were only numbers, not like it was someones phone number! Maybe he's going to buy her lingerie. Just tell her to wait and see if he starts acting funny, or comes home late, smelling like a women, or strange numbers call his cell phone. Shes over reacting.
2007-02-20 00:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand trying to help a friend. But, both of you being this caught up in that much drama is amazing. Either you're both in the 7th grade or you really need to find some type of entertainment in your life.
2007-02-20 00:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
why would this concern you? Of course, unless it is you. Let it go.. If it was a phone number and several girls measurements on it.. I'd be concerned.. Maybe it was a gift for his mother or sister or cousin. .. Maybe she never gave the measurements and he was guessing or wishful thinking. .
2007-02-20 00:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did either one of you consider that the numbers may in fact be a combination for a lock?
Your friend sounds VERY insecure. She really does need to get a grip.............
2007-02-20 00:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if they are getting along good then maybe he wants to marry her
2007-02-20 00:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Kala♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋