Ok so say YOU started seein some1 & u connected right from the start u thought they were perfect & visa versa. But the other person wasn't lookin 4 a proper relationship at that stage. (I know some of u will say that is bulls***t! but it does happen I hav felt like that b4 as u just feel that u don't want to hav to answer to anyone & u just don't want to feel tied down at that stage no matter how well u get on wit that person! But what if in the process of u 2 bein 2gether that person messed u about due to the fact that they were confused about what they wanted due to thier inability to commit at the time & in the process hurt u. Would YOU when movin on intend to never b with that person again? Due 2 the fact that they messed u about & didn't put u 1st priority? & if u had gone ur seperate ways & after time the other person HAD realised how much of a quality & asset U are & wanted U bac would you giv them another chance?or would u decline & jus b friends?
2007-02-19 23:35:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I haven't seen him for a 2 months since we have broken up and he has been calling me since. He called me last night and I think he wants to get back together?? I don't know whether to start something with him even though he hurt me in the past when he was unsure of his inability to commit, but then we were like best friends!! Should I EVER take him back!!
2007-02-19 23:37:43 · update #1
P.S he does want something serious now, but I am not sure whether to take him back as he did mess me about in the past..
2007-02-19 23:39:50 · update #2
Wow, this is a difficult question to ask. I always encourage (and try to myself) people to go ahead and take the risk, as life's a dance BUT with being hurt so bad the first time around . . . I still guess I would say go for it, but if he pulls this again the pain will cut so darn deep, it would definitely be difficult to get over.
I'm assuming that you're telling yourself that you'll go slow if you get back together but by the way you indicated you felt upon first seeing and ultimately talking to him, that isn't going to be possible. You're going to be in neck deep from day one . . . I would go for it but I would continue talking on the phone, via e-mail anything first, for a month or so prior to seeing him physically in person again. That way, you can at least move a little slower (when you kiss him again for the first time it will catapult you back onto the clouds where you'll be walking on air and you really don't want to come crashing down hard again JUST in case it doesn't work).
2007-02-19 23:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knew in the beginin that he didn't want to be tied down! i understand that you got hurt but you did know what the out come could of been and did become, now that its been awhile if he tells you that he DOES want a relationship then why not ? at least this time you know that he means everything, but if he does mess up break it off with him and dont EVER talk to him again, he wouldn't be worth it. good luck girlie!!!
2007-02-19 23:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Desi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your style of explanation it sounds like you have been doing the guys brain in.
He was probably needing a rest from you.
For some reason he is considering giving you an other chance.
Suggest you go easy this time and play it a lot cooler.
2007-02-19 23:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh sooo not worth it. There are real men out there that know how to handle their feelings and treat a women. Don't waste your time with this guy, you'll end up just breaking up later on -save yourself the time & heartache.
2007-02-20 00:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think him telling you he didn't want anything serious was a red light indicator that he might hurt you(which he did). I think it's good to forgive him but,i wouldn't be to quick to become his side walk again for him to **** all over you.There's more fish in the sea,spring is around the corner.good luck!
2007-02-19 23:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by walker4907 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what darling???? You need to trust in yourself. What is your gut instinct?? Go with the first gut feeling you had when you first heard his voice again.............. Just hold back a bit this time.... You know, don't be immediately available when he wants to hook up .............. make him wait a day or so till you "organise yourself" or whatever. Just Do It!!!
PEACE
.................. :0)
2007-02-19 23:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by Minx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to answer that.
How much do you like them?
Do you rather chance it with them, or another guy?
Either way, it's a chance, so which 1 do you choose?
2007-02-19 23:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted you back he'd have asked you. He's simply stringing you along. He does it because you allow him to. You need to move on and stop being friends with this guy. If he were your friend, he wouldn't be leading you on.
2007-02-19 23:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take him back. He is a player. Been there, done that. If he messed around once, he will do it again.
2007-02-19 23:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think you can trust him, then do what your heart is telling you. If you think that you will find it hard to trust him again, its not worth it - no way.
2007-02-19 23:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by missBambi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋