I split from my ex a year ago, his choice entirely. He still calls me in the early hours of the morning even though he is apparently with someone else. Why does he do this. He asks about the kids (that he no longer sees), how I am, the pets, if I am seeing anyone etc. Why? I don't hate him, forgiven him and moved on but dont understand why he still contacts me
2007-02-19 23:35:15 · 22 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's calling in the early hours then he has probably been drinking! Drink affects people in many different ways! He obviously gets in a reflected mood and lonely! When you have been with a partner for a long time you consider them your best friend and confidant! He probably feels bad about what he did and wants reassurance that he is not the bad person he thinks he is (Drunk depression) hat's off to you for dealing with it all sensibly and very maturely!!!!!
Probably best to call him in the day time and ask him why he is doing this and also ask him to stop! As it is obviously playing on your mindset!
Take care.x.
2007-02-19 23:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chris W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be calling out of genuine concern for and your kids, however, in my experience, exes who continue to call long after the relationship has ended - are doing so because they want to keep the possibility of a reunion alive in case things don't work out with their new partner in the future.
I've also had exes who kept calling even when they met someone new and confessed that they want to be with me also!
I say change your number.
2007-02-19 23:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by rachel e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a control issue with him. I wouldn't answer the phone after a certain time of night. Why do you answer the phone at night? I think by answering at all hours of the night you are telling him that it is okay to hang on. Make some guidelines and boundaries for him. Your personal life is not his business anymore. Let him know that you will answer questions about the children but that your personal life is not his business anymore and is not open for discussion. He maybe regretting leaving, but it sounds like he is having his cake and eating it too.
2007-02-19 23:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by MTDawni 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he drunk? That could explain it. Maybe he is appeasing his guilt for splitting with you. You could always ask him not to call, early hours of the morning must be pretty inconvenient. Let him miss you and deal with his guilt another way.
2007-02-20 08:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a control issue. He wants to still think that he has some sort of influence in your life. Change your number to an unlisted one and cut off all contact with him.
2007-02-20 00:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be cautious. If he's not seeing you lots, he's in all probability with somebody else and if he harm you as quickly as, he ought to do it lower back. do no longer enable him cheat you. communicate over with a pair older girlfriends approximately him so as that they might provide you greater valuable suggestion. adult men would be scum and it might suck if he only strung you alongside. He in all probability is striking out with you while he has no person else. in case you prefer to be pals, bypass with him for espresso yet no longer continually. turn him down on occasion so as that he can study which you too have a existence. do no longer enable your heart get caught up in a project which you're uncertain approximately. continually safeguard your heart.
2016-11-24 19:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He misses you and he still wants to know how your doing. Tell him if he wants to talk to you do it at a reasonable time. Usually when my ex is drunk he would call at 2am to ask about the cat. I just don't answer the phone
2007-02-19 23:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he left & you want to get on with your life without him
he didn't want you but he can't stand the thought of you moving on or meeting someone else
I know how it is my ex husband done the same to me for three years ,then when I met someone else he wanted back
you have to put a stop to this he is playing mind games & it is not fair on you or kids
2007-02-20 01:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by miss smidgey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't love or trust my ex anymore... he is the one that left. {2 years ago}But..he still calls...always has. He always comes over and
ask me to go for a ride on the Harley..{.I do} because I LOVE to ride...it has nothing to do with him....don't let him control you....I think he is trying to make problems in your life.
I stopped sleeping with him too....he proly has aids...or some STD.
2007-02-20 00:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he contacts you cos he still thinks of you in that way, but he might still think of his girl that way too. he doesn't want you to be with someone new, he would be jealous. you just have to do what's good for you, as long as it doesn't bug you that he calls just keep doing what your doing
2007-02-19 23:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋