My s/o has to relocate 700 miles away next week. He's going to buy another house and stay there indefinately.
I either..
1. break up (not an option, I say)
2. try long distance indefinately
3. follow him
He wants me to make my own choice, but he wants us to stay together. He tells me that there are grad schools for me to look at in his new city. He tells me that his new city might grow on me. I'm not going to move in with anyone unless it's part of marriage & he knows this, so why does he say this stuff? Am I missing something?
We've been together 1.5 yrs+. People say 2 yrs is the critical point when people decide to commit long term, or not. Should I wait a few more months and see what happens?
2007-02-19 23:14:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finish school then see where you are at with him. The last thing you should do is start sacrificing your education over the possibility of finding the right mate. If he is the one, you will find a way to make it work, just like people who have lovers in the military or who go to different schools. After you graduate, if you are still together, then decide where you would like to live, but you will have an education already available for where ever you go then.
2007-02-19 23:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by dv4unme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose getting married before the move if he says yes then marry and make the move. Don't wait until after the move to marry. If he says no then i'd dump the jerk immediately and move on. Above all else don't just follow him or do the long distance thing indefinately tell him to make a decision to commit to a longterm permanent marriage or dump him.
doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what to do in this situation.
2007-02-20 07:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I don't agree with the 2 year mark. That's just a number.
Sounds like he loves you, 700 miles is WAY too long for a long distance relationship, it's not fair to you, him or your relationship. If you're graduating in May or June, I would take the risk of moving out to his city and finding your own place by him out there. It could be a pretty wonderful adventure (I mean that in only the best ways). You do not need to move in with him, graduate schools can always subsidize your housing OR he may be able to pitch in.
I wish both of you the best of luck.
2007-02-20 08:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont move in unless you are married. You cant just change your life for your sole mate, if you dont have that commitment of a ring on your finger. It would be sad if you moved all the way there, went to a school you didnt care for, and then Him break things off with you.
Long distance relationships can work, if you are both willing to be apart from each other.
If you do move down to his city, then get an apartment, And tell him that there is no way you are moving unless guys get married.
Dont settle.
2007-02-20 07:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to marry him and move with him to this new citiy or state. Try long distance for now if need be and if i were you i would see if he is ready for marriage and if both of you are then get married and move with him. If you do the long distance thing if it is meant to be it will work out and last no matter how far apart the two of you are. Love will keep you together if it is meant to be. If not then it will fade and then you will move on in your life someday.
2007-02-20 07:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why is he moving so far away from everyone you know like friends, family etc . You can go for it ,but warning after you move in man have a tendency to change, so make sure you get a ring first .
Or you can go with him but don't quit school or work ,tell them you have a family emergency go and see if it's somewhere you want to live. Who knows he might propose while you with him there hopefully .That way if it doesn't work out, you can go back to your life if the one with him isn't worth it .
Good luck to you !!
2007-02-20 07:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by canielany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough choices. You have to ask yourself how you really feel about this person. If you are not to a point where you want to be with him no matter what, then I say stay and try to make the Best of it. Good luck.
2007-02-20 07:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relations usually don't work, you could try it for a few weeks while you think about it. If you love him I think you should go with him, if it doesn't work you can come back and at least he will not be around to make it more difficult.
2007-02-20 07:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to us, Ma'am. It's up to what's in your Heart. I kow that sounds cruel. But it's you, that's gonna change your life. Meet yourself, halfway. Take some time, away from him? and see if it hurts, all that bad. I'm bettin', you'e out there, in a few days. Love is important. But happiess, should rule the day. Good Luck to ya!
2007-02-20 07:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see.....
1) If breaking up is not an option.
2) Long distance is a waste of your time, and it will never work.
3) that only leave .........uhm........."start packing!"
2007-02-20 07:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋