Reasons why father should have the custody of children when marriages broke up?

Question

Reasons or article, need in debate

Answer 1

Because fathers love their children just as much as a mother can!

Answer 2

The courts generally feel that young children are best with their mother, who traditionally is the main carer. If this is not the case, and it is the mother who goes out to work and the father who stays at home and looks after the children (it may be for example that he works from home in any case) then on divorce or breakdown of the relationship, a good argument could be made that this situation ought to continue, with the mother finding alternative accommodation and contributing to the children's upkeep. This takes their role reversal to its logical conclusion.

There are also women who do not make good, responsible parents. If it's found that the children suffer neglect, or physical or emotional abuse from the mother - or if this abuse comes from someone else whom she allows access to the children and fails to protect them, then the court can order that the children may live with their father as long as he is a better prospective carer. Otherwise alternative family members may ask to be assessed, and in the worst case, Social Services may ask the court to make an order freeing the children for adoption by a new family.

In a nutshell, children should be with the person who is best able to care for them, whether that person is father or mother.

Ideally parents should continue to co-operate with other in the children's best interests - they should also give up stupid point-scoring exercises and take up some more rewarding hobby.

It should be remembered that these cases are NOT about the "rights" of mothers or fathers, nor who is capable of loving them, but of the children's RIGHTS to be cared for responsibly, and of their RIGHTS to continue seeing both parents as much as possible. Gender should really not even come into it.

Answer 3

This is why divorce sucks, no matter who wins custody EVERYONE loses big time. Everyone will hurt. especially the kids.
One person I read said that if the women doesn't have a job she might lose custody, nope not true, if the woman was the full time housewife she will NOT lose custody, in fact that may be a factor in her favor because she was also full time provider for the kids, more to providing than money and that's why there is child support.
I also heard someone say because you love your child just as much. that doesn't matter to a judge, he already knows the parents love their child or they wouldn't have come to court to battle for custody.

Answer 4

If the mother doesn't have a job and can't support the children, or if she is a drug adict or an acoholic.

Answer 5

Only if the mother is unfit
otherwise it should be joint custody