my ex left me a few months ago, we got back together a couple of times but it didnt last more than a couple of days.
we have a child together I kNOW THE BEST THING IS TO LET HIM TAKE THE CHILD at weekend or watever but its really hard for me... i just want a family i cant understand why he dosnt love me and why he has treated me so bad , i cant get my head round it all ilove him so so much and wish i didnt.
2007-02-19 22:31:22 · 14 answers · asked by missg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to give yourself time,your feelings for this guy are not going to go away overnight,my advice to you is,make the break,and make it completely,dont keep going back to him,you broke up for a reason and with all the will in the world to make it work,that reason is still going to be there hun.If you keep going back to him,you are just going to lose confidence and develop feeling of insecurity cos youll never know how long its going to last this time.Work something out for the child,he or she needs both parents,but if you do get back together you'll only end up rowing all the time,this is not good for your child to observe,its better if the kid has two parents apart,who are happy,then two parents together who are not,cos you wont be.
2007-02-19 22:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get back with him. You have been so brave looking after a child, if he is that bad for you would your child want to be in that surroundings. you are being very good for letting him have the child at the weekends. use this time at the weekends to go out and socialise and you will find someone that you can trust and know that they are not going to hurt you or your child.
2007-02-19 22:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of went through this, i wanted my ex back for wow yrs n he treated me like crap, i do mean crap it was really terrible. he messed up my life so bad im still payin 4 what he has done. that was almost 10 yrs ago... my advice let him b, if he treated u badly he wont change. they never do unless they go get help, even then sometimes it doesnt work. they (guys) tell u ur the 1 with the problem not them. if u cant find ur answer here. i suggest u go to a theripist/counsler talk to her let her explain 2 u. whatever he did bad 2 u im sure it wasnt ur fault. if it was abuse i can tell u now it was not ur fault dont blame urself. if u need someone 2 talk 2 pls feel free 2 email me or Im me anytime. tc
2007-02-19 22:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by thatsspoiledangel2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get some help and work on yourself. Don't use your child as a tool to hold on to someone that doesn't want you holding on. The more you try to make him love you, the more he is going to pull away until eventually it will even be hard for him to see his child. LET HIM GO!
2007-02-20 01:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on with your life and let him get on with his.
Your child will benefit having his dad included in his life but if he (the dad) doesnt't love you anymore then it will not benefit you in anyway.
It is hard breaking away from somebody you love still but if the feeling isn't mutual anymore it will have bad consequences.
Try cutting off from him TOTALLY for a year and see how you feel then ... your child can see him through family and friends who i am sure will be pleased to help you get back on the road to recovery!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-20 02:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by stepper282000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time and you will get over him but don't wreck your life for another its just not worth it.
I know that whatever anyone tells you inside you feel that no matter what good advice people give you its you who is going through the hurt just now and that really hurts.
But you will find an honest decent partner who will want you both for what you are
God Bless
2007-02-19 22:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. Move on, let him have the kids so you can grieve and don't deprive your children of a family. I'm really sorry you aren't getting what you need from the man who fathered your children, I know what that dissapointment is like but you will be ok and find someone wonderful:)
2007-02-19 22:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally since u have asked...I think that u should think about continuity for ur child. Wot will he/she think if ur partner comes and goes all the time..children need stability.
Im talking from experience as my dad left and as much as my mum loved him (he treated her quite badly too) it was best to let him go.
As much as it hurts, it is best in the long run....i couldn't have beared it if my dad stayed only to hear them argue ........x
2007-02-19 22:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly you have to accept that the relationship has finished. You cannot make someone love you. As for your child, he or she should be allowed to see their father and an arrangement should be made and stuck to.
2007-02-23 04:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel really bad for you, but you know what you have to do. if he is really treating you bad then he is no good for you and your child. there are plenty of men out there that will treat you and your little one with the respect and love you deserve. be strong and it will get easier you need to do it not only for you but for your little one, so they don't get treated like dirt when they get older,
give them a mum to look up to. good luck
2007-02-20 01:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by sarah xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋