I am only 31 and I have no desire to have intercourse?

Question

I am only 31 and I have no desire to have intercourse with my boyfriend of 6 years. Once he and I make love 1 time in 3 day's that is it for me. I do not want to make love for a week or so can some one please tell me why ?

thank you all for the answere's but what you do not know is that he is older then I am and he want's to make love all the time when he is home.He is a truck driver and he is only home on the weekend, I have a house to clean and we have a son that I have to take care of all the time just how do I fit boyfriend into this picture

Answer 1

maybe because of his schedule you have made it a routine. You know what your weekends are gonna be and you have started resenting them...Change things up alittle...
maybe get a baby sitter, and clean the house through the week. have a nice quiet weekend with hubby...try to relax...

Answer 2

Not to sound like I am unfeeling, but if he is only home on the weekends, then what is the issue? You clean house during the week. Your son needs cared for whether your boyfriend is there or not. Y'all spend one night home as a family on the weekend, plan a date night for you and your boyfriend the other night. If he doesn't get some during the weekend, he will wonder who is getting it during the week when he isn't there. I do know some women go through a period of burn out. See if there is a family member or friend that can keep your son a few hours for one or two days during the week. Good luck.

Answer 3

Don't feel bad, and don't worry about it. I'm 32 and I don't want to make love that often either, and I'm married. Don't make the mistake I did though, I made love with my boyfriend and I got pregnant, so then I felt pushed to marry him. I married him, and found it was a mistake. Now I'm trapped until I can get a descant job. He's in the military pulling in all of the income, plus we get free medical care. Where, in my case, I'm out of the military drawing disability because of severe tendanitis. I haven't gone to work because I've been raising our son. I've been a stay at home Mom now since 2005. My husband has a bad temper, and I've put up with it for long enough. He got in my face last night and I'm tired of it. However, you may not have the problems I have. I have heard that as you get older your sex drive decreases. That's probably all that it is. Don't worry too much.

Answer 4

Good start! Now let's get back to where it's suppose to be. It "use" to be called, 'Making Love'. If you don't? DON'T! You sound too young to know what real Love is. So I'd suggest that you wait until the both of you understand what you're doing. If he gets mad? Sex is the only reason, he wants you around. And Sex is not a part of being with someone. And when it's the right time? It's gonna mean, so much more. If your Guy, Loves you? He'll be more than happy to wait. Good Luck, Little One! Respect yourself. And only except the same, in return.

Answer 5

Hon, first of all this is normal, stress is probably getting you down. so go to a Dr. get a physical and make sure you are ok and him too. Then tell the Dr. you have trouble with your sex drive and you need to fix this before you run into marital problems. This is so normal, don't be upset, my cousin had a deficiency in one hormone and had to take a pill 1 hr before sex or it wouldn't work. Its ok, it happens to everyone, but just in calse its the stress the therapist will tell you and your husband will be happier that you addressed the situation and doesn't feel like he did something wrong. Take care Heather

Answer 6

This guy can't be so routine, that you rather not have sex at all.

I refuse to believe that you can lose the desire to make love, but I do believe that you can lose interest in who you're doing it with. I bet there are so many different things that you haven't been exsposed to yet, that you could still be classified a virgin.

You need to tell ol' boy that the big boys don't play Xbox no more. If he can't keep his own honey sweet, then let somebody else bring in the sugar cane.

Answer 7

There is more to a relationship than just having sex. Only you will know when you want it. A lot young people think the wrong way when it comes to a relationship, the guys sometimes think with the wrong head and that's what causes there relationship to go down the drain. Seems like you want more than just sex and that is alright.

I hope this helped you out.

Oldman

Answer 8

Let me guess,

Whenever you do do it it is the same everytime.
Kind of gets boring doesn't it, kinda like a chore you have to do before he will let you go to sleep.
The best I can tell you, which I'm sure others will to, is to spice it up, get some variety.
roleplay
lingerie
try things you haven't done since the first year you were together.

But, at the same time, it shouldn't be up to you to make all the adjustments to make it more exciting, he should be trying to push your hott buttons as well.
If he is complaining about your sexual relationship, you will have to tell him how it is, so that you can mutually work on it.

Answer 9

Ask your doctor for hormone therapy.Its quite normal to feel that way .Your doctor can help with that and if you still feel that way then you need a good friend or professional to work you through strss that you are feeling. Hormonal therapy works and will put the spunk back in it. As we get older our emotions come out in different ways-stress on the job-kids-housework can really wear a person down.good luck and talk to your md -

Answer 10

Maybe the spark is gone from the love affair. If you want to spice it up some, get some sex toys. If you are not at all interested, then it is not fair to him. Maybe if you don't put out more, he will find it somewhere else. Are you willing to take the risk?