I've not spoken to my close female friend for 3 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. SHE ONLY WANTED TO BE FRIENDS!
We MET ON FRIDAY at a friends party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
I apologised for hurting her i.e. wanting no contact - she snaped bck saying YOU NEVER HURT ME! GOOD/BAD RESPONSE??
I asked her if she'll join us on our group roadtrips - she said YES! - A POSITIVE SIGN OF FRIENDSHIP RESTARTING???
As she left I said that hopefully/possibly see you in a few months -she replied I'll see you at the roadtrip - we said bye and she gave me a tight hug - ANOTHER POSITIVE SIGN???
She needed a hug from my mate as it was too much for her to take in!
IS THE FRIENDSHIP REALLY LOST???Why she hurt???
2007-02-19 22:05:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
BEFORE Friday - she txt me this:
I really do not have the energy to keep explaining things to you.I will be civil but i'm afraid i feel the close friendship is lost,please move on...................
2007-02-19 22:07:03 · update #1
Read all please
2007-02-19 22:11:47 · update #2
I think you should move on,try to remain friends,but give up on the romantic relationship,she doesnt sound interested,but you could still salvage the friendship,if you can be genuine in saying that is all you want from her.
2007-02-19 22:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh - this old chestnut...
Did this myself when I was younger. Bad news is that it'll never work out. No, she'll never change her mind. No, if you stay friends you'll never be able to make her change her mind.
Sounds like shes a good person not to blank you, but don't take a hug good bye as 'meaning anything'! I don't think at the party she was "hurt+uncomfortable" - she was probably just embarresed...
If she's going on the road trip then its because there's lots of you...
The close friendship thing probably is lost, but with me and the girl I fancied we're still mates 15 years on. Went on a few mates holidays, but you really have to move on from it all...
Not easy and not fun.. but she's said no to going out...
2007-02-19 22:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Simon C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship between opposite sexes is often suffers and misunderstood by all including those who are involved. There is not difference between Friendship and Love except for sex and marriage. You need to spend some quality time to find out what kind of relation you have and what kind of relations both of you are expecting and desiring. You two know more about your relation than anyone else. If only friendship, be friends and if there is more than that go for it. Never Look Back...!
2007-02-19 22:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by pkeleti72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear!! your getting mixed signals and she thinks she's giving clear signals!
what you think are positive signs of friendship are JUST that.. friendship and nothing more.
you should be happy to go along with the fact that you can still be pleasnt and civil and be in each others company. all these things , she's said to you so why are you looking for anything more?
Be careful you dont push her to be come any thing more than a friend or you may lose her friendship for good
2007-02-19 22:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by denise m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what are you doing and what is with this long haul see you in two weeks or months thing that's rubbish.
Be a Man just get hold of her and give her a nice big cuddle (women adore that) and tell her don't ask ,
"You me girl out Friday night bring a toothbrush" and both get a hold of yourselves . Romance is King not games.
2007-02-19 22:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop trying to read into it too much and go about life with or without her. If you try to force your friendship to happen again you'll scare her off. If you build trust and good times again through such social meetings great. If not then move on as she says - life's too short to be worrying about people who don't have your best interests at heart.
2007-02-19 22:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this girl is giving you mixed messages.
She sounded on the defensive when she said she
was not hurt.
Now that she txt you saying she,ll see you on the roadtrip.
Do that. Don,t contact her. Move on. And if she is hurt
then you just tell her that you,re doing just what she wanted
you to do. Good Luck.
2007-02-19 22:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she liked u 2.but she doesnt want to hurt u by telling u so she is triying 2 back off from u and she is finding it hard to take it all in and she wants to be ur mate but she doesnt want to have to explain to her self that she really like u.the only thing u can do is tell her the way u feel.and tell her that ur frienship can never end but u just want to know how she feels about u.xx
2007-02-19 22:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by little dove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit the girl down and ask her what if she's interested in still being friends life's to short to keep wondering.
2007-02-20 09:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many different ways does she need to spell it out for you? Move on. In case you didn't get that, that means MOVE ON.
2007-02-19 22:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋