My wife and I are separtating, I haven't moved out yet though. She said she loves me but she is not in love with me. I have found out also that she has been talking to another man. She confessed to me that she has been and she said she didn't tell me at first because she was afraid it would crush me. She told me yesterday that they shared their first kiss. Later that night, we had sex, something we have continued to do with certain groundrules such as no kissing. Well we got too involved last night and we kissed. After it was over my wife was upset because we kissed, she was afraid that her new "friend" would find out about it. I love my wife and I want to try to work things out with her, our problems stem from a lack of communication, neither one of us has cheated on the other. She has not been open to counseling. Should I call her in the morning, I don't get to see her until suppertime everyday, or should I wait until she gets home and talk, or should I just leave her alone
2007-02-19 21:57:29 · 13 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU MUST CALL YOUR WIFE & DON'T let her alone otherwise she will be ruined. You both should forget the past and never discuss again. Be devoted to each other & never let any body come in between. Loyalty & sincerity in relationship matters in life. Don't think even to leave her as she needs your affection & love.
2007-02-19 22:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well only you know what you should do if you feel like calling her then do it it is a hard call maybe you both could get some help and OK if i was you i would just sit her down and tell her look i would like to work this out with you if you do and just see what she says but if she don't want the same thing then i would not wait for her to figure out life you were not to be crushed either hey good luck best of luck
2007-02-20 06:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her? i think not as you have a very confused female on your hands sounds like she needs some counselling. In regards to the kissin bit, sounds like you have a very strange relationship.
When the marriage or relationship is on the rocks the kissing stops and all else stops as well. Sounds like she is really hung up on the guy. Time to move on with your life.
2007-02-20 06:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by trendz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is WRONG with you two??? If you're separating you should NOT be having sex, regardless of the 'kissing' rule. It just confuses both of you and complicates things. It sounds like she doesnt know what she wants. Until you can move out you should be in separate beds/rooms. To me, it's not right to continue the sexual relationship especially if you are not going to reconcile and she's seeing someone else. It's wrong of her to do that to you and the other guy.
2007-02-20 06:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by curiosity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is so selfish. I may be wrong, but it would be nice to find out a reaction if you tell her you're thinking about seeing some other girl. And you should see someone else.
She's sure you're always there. Sometimes that security is not good. Nobody's there forever, and it's better she knows that as soon as possible!
Call her and tell her.
2007-02-20 06:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Silvia N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work hard on it..save ur marriage...lack of communication not showing support or care or being there for ur wife screws up a lot of things...talk to her show her u love her and still need her...talk to each other more often....ur wife seems to be confused
2007-02-20 06:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking face to face would be a good idea , where u can see emotions on a person's face and tell that whether they r true or not , so go home and then open your heart in front of her !
best of luck man , i m rooting for you !!!!
2007-02-20 06:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by guru ji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither of you have cheated but she kissed another man ? sounds like cheating of sorts to me ...call her then you are opening up your communication lines with her !!
2007-02-20 06:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely call her, but wait until after 8:00AM. That's what time I'll be calling her.
2007-02-20 06:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-21 02:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋