People usually have this perception that I'm "serious" (as in I don't joke around or smile and all that) but yet when people know me, they KNOW I'm totally crazy and fun to be with. I think that I need to be better with my social skills and the first impression I have on people but even when I observe my other (more-popular and sociable friends) I come up with nothing.
Please help me let other people know that I'm not snotty or arrogant. This is really bugging me....
2007-02-19 21:05:32 · 7 answers · asked by cheeseblockhead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
omg I have the same problem...!! Its not really a problem when you think about it, its who we are! I am the same way....I am a fun person and once you get to know me, you'd love me. But most people don't approach me because they think I am mean or a very literal person!! They say I never smile and I can't take a joke! That pisses me off because that is the total opposite of how I am!! LOL!! All you have to do if you want people to know that you are cool, is just lighten up! I'm not saying change for anyone, but if its a good change, then change! If your not use to smiling alot, then smile everyday....its like brushing with your left hand if your right handed or brushing with you right hand if your left handed. Try smiling and speaking to everyone, and then you will see how people atract to you!! Trust me, I had to learn then hard way. I began to smile more and more people noticed and came around....then my bubbly personality came out....all you have to do is lighten up....smile more....talk more....even when you don't know that person....give them a compliment once in a while......hug someone.....and a whole crap load of people will love you for who you are! You know your not mean and you know you can take a joke....so show people!!
2007-02-19 21:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am shy with strangers or people i don't know very well,do you feel left out and ignored like your watching everyone having a laugh and not being included?
well i recently used to feel like that but discovered that you don't have to wait for someone to ask you a question to join in,this is what i started to do. first of all you ask a question to one of the people and take it from their, if they get side tracked and start talking about people you don't know and what they did then ask them how they know them and so on. ask them what they like and always have a smile for everyone it makes people feel nice.
good luck :) you know yourself it's just a matter of letting people see what your like.
2007-02-20 06:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by zee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm some people know you as totally crazy and fun when you get relaxed and hyper. so if you don't want to be portrayed as serious, just be yourself because you were obviously being yourself and weren't controlling it when your friends saw you as totally crazy and fun to be with.
but i mean just show people you are listening. when people talk to you, dont take it for granted because they probably got the guts to talk to you and you weren't 'cooperating'
you aren't shy. all the girls i knew said this but told me it was just because they were getting used to how people are as you grow up.
2007-02-20 05:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's holding you back? I think you should figure that one out first and then try to work on it. Let your guard down and just be yourself. People will notice how fun you are when you don't close yourself off.
2007-02-20 05:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people used to have the same opinion of me.. i guess it's the face...a smil is the best ice breaker. try smiling at people if they are familiar.. that will show that you are not a snob, and try to maintain a gentle expression on ur face. a teeny weeny shadow of a smile :) it does not make u look serious.
2007-02-20 05:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon now, lighten up a little.
You're joking, right?
2007-02-20 05:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by lalanmeyer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes just feel confident........................................
and meet me i will let you know hints for that
2007-02-20 05:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by Shahbazi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋