how would i tell my dad that im bisexual?

Question

cuz he says that he is not homophobic but calles some of my guy friends queers and gay names...
so im daddy's little girl [im 14 though] and he thinks of me as straight as a ruler. yet i think he would be the most understanding cuz i dont have a mom [she died] and my aunt is really close [and she says that she hates people who are not straight] i really want to tell him so i can tell him whats going on with my relationship between me and my girlfriend. but i dont know how to tell him or if i should even tell him at all.

iv been this way for 3 years. i know im only 14 but that doesnt mean anything really in my eyes. cuz i dont go for 'oh hey i want to try somthing new, so im going to go for a girl just to try it out and get attention' no no no. i look for a person's personality and how they act around me and my friends. thats what matters most to me. not gender

Answer 1

why bother telling him its your business not his

Answer 2

hey i first discovered that i was bisexual when i was 13 and im now turning 17 and take it from me dont tell your dad if you dont feel right in the way that you may be treated but that unfortunately is the truth as i myself have not had the courage to tell my mum and dad about me and my closest friend who is over my place almost every day but thankfully althought the 4 years i will admit have been tough i now live with my girlfriend and boyfriend as my parents are travelling around Australia now that they are retiredand as for your aunt dont worry about her if she goes on about it just tell her that you have bi sexual friends and that they are the nicest ppl you could ever meet and if tha dont work just try to ignore her then when you are older say 16 -17 tell your dad if you feel right about it if not just tell your friends and that is the best u can do really. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Some people are going to BS you.

Some people are going to lie to you.

This is the truth. This is why you're going to give me the 10 points too.

First off, you're at the age where its normal for people to experiment with different kinds of sex ok? Theres going to be a period when you'll like girls, then boys,,,,then maybe both.

HOWEVER,,,,you're 14 years old. Your personality won't "freeze" as an adult until you're about 25/26 years old ok? So you're looking at a MINIMUN of 12 more major personality changes, and probably closer to 15 to 18 before you're considered to be an "adult" by other adults ok?

Another thing is, everyone has 3 little voices in their head- a child, an adult, and a parent. Fighting between people is usually between the parent and the child between different people (One persons "Parent" is trying to communicate with anothers "child" so they fight)

Theres two ways you can handle this:

A)Talk to your Dad, and only talk to him adult to adult- don't use the child voice or he'll turn on the parent voice ok? Then you two won't be communicating.

B)You don't have to talk to your Dad. Theres a pretty good chance he already knows whats going on in your life by indirect methods. He askes teachers what you're doing at school. He's probably talking to your Moms friends and asking their advice.

And this is going to freak you out- your Dad loves you dearly, but he's not always going to know how to communicate with you. And he's going to stumble a lot,,,so cut him some slack.

Good Luck, and G-d bless

Answer 4

Tell your mom first and for a while try letting your mom sort of give it off to your dad and try let him know there is nothing wrong with it. You can never force love, but if you found someone of the opposite gender who you could potentially marry, your dad doesn't need to know. Good luck!

Answer 5

Probably it would be best to just take it real casually. If something happens, maybe tell him and use girlfriend instead of just using friend to hide the relationship. You don't have to do the whole coming out thing like some people do if you don't want to. Of course if you want to the option is there. A third is to pull away and hide your personal life from him. It's really up to you.

Answer 6

Hey well speaking from experience, i just sat my dad down and said i needed to talk but not to worry, granted i got a little upset coz it is a big thing. im my dads little girl although im 22. he was cool i just said ive got a girlfriend, i think for some reason the words gay or lesbian scare parents. the only thing id say was wait and see because ur still quite young, i knew i liked girls from a young age and ive only just come out, this is to no offence to u but people may not take u seriously because of ur age. hope it all works out

Answer 7

You have to take the risk, as this is your life and your life only. You have to be in charge of your own personal life, to be in control, to express yourself.
But first try to remember to find some other place to live in worst case could happen that your father reject or refuse you forever. Consider this fact as well. If you are still too young to do so, then better wait until you are mature enough to live by yourself with your own money. Then if you are ready and mature enough, you have to tell him of who you really are.

Answer 8

I think at 14 I might consider leaving off telling him for a few years - let him think you and your girlfriend is just girly mates - he doesn't need to know just yet. You might not even be bisexual it is a bit young to know for sure - maybe this is just typical teenage experimentation - we all did it

Answer 9

you know your dad better than anybody else does, you know exac
tly what you need to tell him in away that he wont be too upset wit
h you and your partner. what more do you want me to say, that yo
u dont know, and are not already aware of?

Answer 10

He's your Dad! You can trust him with anything. Just tell him that you have feelings toward this girl that are too string to resist. If he hates you for it, at least you where honset.

Answer 11

Stop worrying. Just pray to God,amen.