2007-02-19 20:37:22 · 7 answers · asked by small 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
there are 2 perspectives in this case:
1. we dont praise them for fear that they may get cocky; know their good points and leave you; let them see that they are better than others in some aspects; it is in our human nature to want to be better than others
2. by criticizing them, that is our way of saying "yes, you did do good, but then, you can do better"
*actually its the same reason or idea on why we dont have the guts to tell the person how we feel towards them, but we could constantly talk about them
2007-02-19 20:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by MB s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some reason it's easier to be an asshole than to be nice. i just turned 30 and for the first time am at a job where my management actually tells me that i'm appreciated there. my work ethics are the same as ever, i work just as hard as i have at passed jobs, yet then, it was unthinkable to even get a pat on the back. and when people are treated unfairly, it's common for them to react similarly to others because of it. therefore creating more negative gestures towards others than positive.
in another sense, people may hesitate to praise only because they're afraid that it will get taken wrong. like they're "kissing ***" or "hitting on" the other person or what have you. there's a fine line between constructive criticism and just plain being a dick. people can be too overly sensitive. insecure. ignorant. people are people. and unfortunately, the general public pretty much just sucks. genuine people are few and far between. if u see somewhere that praise is due, dont hesitate to give it. if you're genuine about it, it will be appreciated and hopefully reciperocated.
2007-02-20 04:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by roach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must be personality. I try to praise others as I know the value of that. I've had plenty of experience with back stabbers. However, when I did receive praise I knew how good I felt and know when someone does you a service it is always a good idea to praise their work.
2007-02-20 04:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in the service I see enough of this to make me sick once a week, but here it's easy to see the issue. Being a soldier is all about fitting in and not sticking out when surrounded by other soldiers. This is practiced to re enforce discipline. The practical up-shot of this is it makes it easier to not be noticed when in combat were sticking out can kill. The bad side is the atmoshere it creates in the ranks sometimes: when some ones boot laces are hanging out it is really easy to jump on them about it, but when you do the right thing all day, every day and work hard to do so, all you are doing is fitting in. That's what its about, even in every day civilian live, fitting in.
2007-02-20 05:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the actions of petty, small-minded people.
It is easy to be critical of others as it deflects criticism away from ourselves.
It takes a rare person to be capable of praising others but accepting criticism for themselves.
2007-02-20 04:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by the_lipsiot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a question of one's upbringing.For several years of my youth I could not bring myself to criticise even those who were patently wrong or unjust, because I was brought up with the strong order to look for at least one plus point in everyone before looking at their negative traits, and I would end up discovering many good points in even those who were violent or vicious. Now in my sixties, I believe that that is a good way to begin life.
2007-02-20 04:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're jealous, petty individuals. Grow up. Make your own life better rather than trying to cut others down.
2007-02-20 04:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by guy o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋