I am a 31 year old widower with two kids aged 4 and 2. I am dating a divorced lady having a 4 year old son. when we met with our kids, they started quarreling over a trivial issue. Though we could calm them, i am wondering what would be the relationship between them in future ? is it wise to marry someone with kids of same age group ?
2007-02-19 20:13:41 · 6 answers · asked by saki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
kids they will understand soon ..that shows their possessiveness on one another i mean with their father and the mother ..they feel insecured by the new relationship ..if u know to ur heart that the person u have choosen will definetly take care of your kids then marry her ,it is like u r giving life to three..as husband and father a very sensitive relationship
2007-02-23 20:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the courage to accept the 4 year old son to the depth of your heart at par with your children, then go ahead and marry her.
It is the only you who is at the centre right now, but the same should be from her side also.
If she also has the courage to accept your children at par with her son then there is absolutely no problem at all.
You all 5 will enjoy the life and leave the rest.
2007-02-20 04:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Karsan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine, don't worry. Your children are young now, and each side is seeing the other as an intruder in their life. Since they are of the same age, ultimately they will learn to work and play together. But you must bring them up like that, try to make them understand each other better. Your first priority now is to see that your children's hostile attitudes towards each other doesn't extend to when they are reaching adolescense. Thoughts and emotional attitudes during adolescense are said to become permanent in some cases. In that case, the brothers might hate each other forever. If they now know each other as good people, they'll fix things up themselves for the future.
2007-02-20 04:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kids quarreling among themselves is a normal thing. They will get along just fine. I'm sure their friends at kindergarten are of the same age group too.
You shouldn't worry too much. It's normal that kids quarrel.
2007-02-20 04:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by whitelighter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can definitely marry someone with kids of same age group. In fact it may be easier for 4 and 2years old kids to develop feeling of togetherness. Off course both of you will have to be very tactful in handling them and help them so that none feels neglected.
2007-02-20 04:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rahul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing marrage is a personal decision, No harm if found OK, Regarding relationship between childrens, They can live like a real brothers or sisters
2007-02-20 04:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Manish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋