Believe it or not, I'm 35 and I'm still wondering why I'm nobody favourite. Everybody stays away from me. My parents, my siblings, family, friends, working colleague. I'm always by myself most of the time. I feel everybody hates me. Is it because I'm too quiet. Well I dun have many ideas to talk. I feel God is unfair. I always fell helpless. I dun have any best friends. Nobody to talk to when I'm down.
2007-02-19 19:39:00 · 10 answers · asked by Zee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You sound depressed; maybe you should tell this to your doc. There are meds that can help you.
2007-02-19 19:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're Emo, that's it.
I, like you, don't have many people that like to remain in my presence. However, that's not fate, that's by design. I only keep close those individuals that mean something to me, all else can just buzz off!
Now back to the Emo thing. It's these feelings of rejection or non-validation that you exude that keeps people away. They can sense it and give you space to breathe or they avoid you so they're spirit isn't brought down too. That's what I sense. If you want contact with other people, find those that are like minded or be more cheery I guess. A smile will have people gravitate toward you more than a frown will.
2007-02-19 19:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Pontius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the best way to get to the bottom of this is to ask your family and former friends why they are staying away? I feel that if you approach them in an honest and vulnerable manner (without getting defensive) they might really open your eyes as to what the root of the problem is.
I would definitely try this before doing counseling because therapist only knows what you tell him/her, whereas people who have known you your whole life probably see a lot more than any therapist can.
And know this too: you are enough. Once you get to the root of your problem your light will draw people to you. :)
2007-02-19 20:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Climbing the ladder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned God when I know it is out of my hands that is who I talk to. Like falling off ladder it worked for me. I would think he would be the last one I would complain about if I was having trouble with my life. You need to get positive and people will want to be around you. I want a friend but stay away from me I do not want to be around any one that is trying to make God upset. To have a friend you have to be one.
2007-02-19 19:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are unfair, I'm sorry you feel so lonely. I know that feeling, like nobody wants to be around you. But, now I attend a really cool group called Celebrate Recovery(12 step program for any hurt, habit, or hang up). At first I didn't think anybody there liked me eight her. But, the ladies in my group are so much like me. They have social anxieties (what i think people think about me and not wanting to deal with it) or comparing myself to others and never feeling like I measure up, and then I don't feel so alone. It's helped me to get real with me and with others. When I'm depressed I can call any of the ladies, and they call me too. Don't feel like your the only one. We are all starving for love (in the friendship form) and none of us really know how to do this life thing. Go ogle Celebrate Recovery and see if you are like me and totally love the place!
2007-02-19 19:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by molly hadley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually how people act towards you is largely dictated by how you act towards them. And how you feel about others is entirely your responsibility!
You're probably just not very approachable, and if you feel everyone hates you thats doubtless why.
Anyway, I used to have trouble making friends too until I read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. Basically it says that if you want to have friends you need to concentrate on being a friend first.
2007-02-20 00:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your too shy and people at work really don't know you, try talking to them more once you are comfortable than it becomes easier, and about your family well i don't know, i don't know what kind of personality you have. people tend to stay away from people that are always sad or mad or always complaining or talking bad about others
2007-02-19 19:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people dont like to be depressed, i once had a guy dump me because i got depressed one day, and was having a bad day!!! go figure!! what a joke. people have real feelings. try to lightnen up, see a therapist.
2007-02-19 19:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we are both in the "same boat" :)
maybe becos both are us are too quiet and introverted, I really envy people who r extrovert, can crack jokes, can gain attention , sociable and be likeble by other people.....
2007-02-22 18:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way .... i dont have friends and really down about it....... I know the f eeling... you can email me.. im 35 too gardenia33_99@yahoo.com
2007-02-23 08:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by gardenia33_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋