See he is already paying 300m for his room that he gets by him self and he is saring a bathroom with the children 1y&4y old so he almost has it to him self. Cause the kids use our bathroom. But he will not buy him self a bed he just on the floor. It's not like he does not have any money he is making about 2000m with no bills.
He acts like he does not want to eat but at night he eats everything.
He will not clean the bathroom. But he will load the dishwasher but he will not get the food off the dishes before hand so they never come out right. But if my husbend and I need to run out for a little he is there to look after the childern for us. But we can not be out more then an hour cause he will not change my little one and he just lets my 4y old run arounld the house. So if we do go out it has to be at night when the kids have been sleep. He always has the lights on in his room and he will be in the living room.
should I up his rent
2007-02-19 19:17:56 · 10 answers · asked by yomom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first try talking to him tell him how you feel that he needs to help out around the house that your not going to tolerate a filthy bath room and his dish washing is a joke and if he wont change then the help is gone and yes up the rent 50 bucks thats cheap rent.
2007-02-19 19:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by dan m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, you should NOT up his rent. He is your brother in-law, do you want to have problems with him? It really sounds like his behavior is nothing but a typical guy who is NOT perfect. Look, guys don't really know how to change pampers, not until they become fathers themselves. Guys also eat late at night, that's just the way they are, they will eat only when they are hungry. Guys also do not clean the bathroom, mainly because they don't remember to or acknowledge it as a regular thing. He eventually will but 1 reminder is enough. Your not his mother, so no matter what, please do not nag him. Not all people will act the way you want them to, especially family. If you don't like what he does, then maybe you should talk to him first, talk to him respectfully before acting up on the behavior you don't agree with.
2007-02-19 19:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 01:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family feuds I don't even wont to go there .You and your husband need to decide your husbands brothers fate. Talk to your old man and remember that's his brother. If it was your sister what would you do. Treat him the same as you would your sister
He is paying $300 a month i wouldnt charge my brother a thing after all hes my family. I would make him go shopping and clean up after himself
2007-02-19 19:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok just b/c he is famaly its no excuse 4 him to act like that -- its just rong!!! u really need 2 sit down & have a talk with him, do that 1st b4 upping his rent. if he refuses to start pulling heis fair weight. then up his rent. u cant let urselfes be a doormatt.
good luck!!
2007-02-19 19:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister live with my 87 years old mom and take care of her. My sister messy and I try not to pick up after her. So it a battle evey day living with her. lol
2015-01-11 16:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he makes enough to money to live on his own. If he is not going to respect your home, its time for him to find his own home.
Tell him the rules and if he doesn't follow, circle apartments in the newspaper and leave it on his bed.
Good luck!
2007-02-19 19:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by HarleeNicole 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move him out. You are both using each other and it is a bad situation.
2007-02-19 19:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
set rules. it worked for me. my parents wont let me stay unless i do this or do that. it sucks and makes me want to get the **** out.
2007-02-19 19:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by laura 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes! there is no family in bussiness !
2007-02-19 19:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋