If this situation was before you, what would you choose?

Question

In June, I will be presented with the following options:

1) Move with my husband. We (and our son) will live together as family.

OR

2) Live away from my husband for 1 year and a half but earn $12,000 a month ($144,000 per year). And be reunited later. Obviously, this money will help our family out financially...But how will that affect my marriage? We will be 6 hours apart driving.

Thanks for your answers.

Yes, my husband is in the military. The gov't is moving him to one location while the job being offered to me is in another location.

I still have a few months to think about it, but I wanted to know what you all thought. Thanks!

Money is NOT the root of all evil.

The LOVE OF money is the root of evil.

Thanks!

Answer 1

If it were my decision???

What decision???........a six hour drive is nothing....and that would make it what??..a thirty five minute flight???...Go for the job and keep your family together !!!!.....You have at your fingertips a gift ...a chance to have it all...GO FOR IT!!!!!
I wish you all that life has to offer ..{although I dont think you need my wishes!!}..*smile*

PEACE

Answer 2

Is the income that important? Is the job important to you?

6 hours is not a bad drive for a weekend trip.

Military families give so much - and leave so much behind, often far from extended family, it's a very difficult choice.

If your husband is being transferred by the military...

You and your son could go visit him monthly and on holidays when your son has time off from school.

Your husband can also take leave and vacations when he can come home to visit you and your son.

Sounds to me like a plan for a financially secure future for your family.

How will you feel about it if you do not take the job?

6 months or so later your husband could be transferred to another base or to an assignment where you can't go.

It would be good if you had the job to keep you busy - if he were assigned overseas to a combat zone - don't you think?

You actually have more than 2 options to consider -

and Tell your soldier husband - thanks

Answer 3

I would consider this if it were for a lot more money. 144,000 a year isn't that much to lose time you will never get back with your family. To watch your son grow, to have special moments. It won't be worth the back tracking you will have to do to maintain your relationship with your husband as distance puts a big strain on communication. You may also feel sorrow for the moments you've missed with your son. Experiences stay with you forever and so does your conscience, money always leaves. What happens when the job is over? Best of luck.

Answer 4

You don't mention why you have to move and if it is for your husband's job - how much will he make? love is grand but money can sure help. If he is earning enough, then move. If not, stay and save some money. Be practical.
Part 2 - since he is military and you can live on base, if he makes enough for you to stay home with your son and not work, that is the best option. Those are very important years. Since he is military, that changes my answer as they need all of the support that we can give them.

Answer 5

First of all this is a decision that you should make together. You and your husband need to sit down and talk about what's best for your family. Remember that it is only for a relatively short time, and you would be able to see each other often. In the end you have to determine what is more important, staying together, or the financial freedom. Good luck.

Answer 6

stay with your husband....money isn't everything. your son will need a mother figure and your husband will need you too. sure you can send love and support over the phone, but a lot of the times it is better to be there in person.

after a while either you will get used to being alone, or you husband and son will get used to it being just them... and when you all reunite, then little arugments might occurr... then bigger and more frequent ines...and then a stain gets put on the marriage... so to avoid it all, just stay with your husband and son

Answer 7

Will strain the relationship a bit. But you are only going to be six hours away. Geeez, honey, the troops in the military in Iraq are apart for at least a year. At least, you can arrange to visit from time to time. Go for the money. . .

Answer 8

well 6 hours isn't that bad but why is the reason for this?? what does your husband think of this? I say stick with your husband but that's just me I guess it depends on how much you really need this money and whether or not you mind a six hour drive

Answer 9

Looks like you have plenty of chances in the future to make a lot of money, so it will come. It is the child and your husband (in that order) that is most important. You will miss your son's growing up years.

I will choose Door #1.

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Answer 10

Well this would be easy for me..I would choose to live with my family..because a job is a job..money is just money..my family..they are my heart..my life ..my world.Nothing would make me happy living away from the people I love..not even a 144,000.00 dollars a year..then that is me not you.. so i think.. You have to ask yourself..what are you willing to sacrifice to make that kind of money..and..when it is all said and done..will you and your family be happy with the choice you choose to make..because in the end that is all that truly matters..if you and your family are happy.

Answer 11

6 hours is no time at all go for the money . If you love each other then whats the problem ?