How do you continue to love a husband who is not faithful anymore after 10 years of marriage?

Answer 1

Remember this little saying and live by it: Sex washes off but love lasts forever.

Men have affairs at the rate of over 80% and women over 74%. If you love the man forgive him and go on. Never bring it up again ever even in the heat of an argument.

Non-monogamy and Polyamorus lifestyles are very common today. Discuss it with your husband and tell him if he wishes to continue having an affair that you want to be non-monogamous and be free to be with other men.

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Answer 2

Ussually in a situation like this I would suggest counceling, but honestly I think you are way past that. You have several options. Many include sseperation and divorce. You could tell him you know and leave, or kick him out, file for divorce, and be rid of him. You could also file behind his back... just be sure to get plenty of evidence of his infidelity. If you confront him he may try to stop you. My father did this to his second wife. She stayed for a while, but ended up leaving, anyway after 9 years of marriage. I cant say I blame her. You deserve much better than the way he is doing you. I am sorry you have to go through this. I hope you have a friend you can go to no matter what you decide. You need some support in your corner right now. Just be careful, and really think on what seems to be the best decision for you. You are the most important person you have right now, unless you have childeren. I wish you the best. Hope I was able to help in some way. Good luck.

Answer 3

You don't. I have seen many couples try to overcome infidelity and none of them have succeeded. Even my parents, and they tired for more than 10 years after the affair. You will always wonder, even you try not to. When he's late or doesn't call, you will think he is cheating. You may be able to have some love for him, but it will never be the same. No matter how much you want to get over it and how hard you try to forget, you never will. No one deserves to live like that. Being alone is better than being a fool. By staying with him and letting him cheat or getting away with cheating you are sending a message that it is OK for adult men to shun responsibility and hurt people with no consequences. Every action must have a consequence and we must be held accountable. He made his dirty bed, now he must lie in it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

communication you two are missing it or this wouldn't of happen. If you two can not put a stop to his affair let the other have him and start a new life. You do not want him to get std and give it to you. Next time communicate with each other. Either he is no good and you should have never married him or he asked for sex and you didn't give it to him. There is always some one that will make love to your spouse if you will not. This goes both ways my x spouse believed in love the one you are with when I worked out of town. I thanked her lover and told him take her. It will be hard for you to forgive him.

Answer 5

I seriously do not think this is at all possible. Guys cheat for diff pu ss y, girls cheat for emotional fulfillment. In your heart, you feel he betrayed YOUR heart, no matter what his reasons were, and I don't think you'll be able to get past that, no matter how hard you try to forget. Forever after, you're going to have doubts everytime you catch him looking at another girl, and shortly after that your self-esteem will take a major beating. If you can, leave him. If you can't, even the score. Maybe he'll learn that paybacks are a b it ch.

Answer 6

I'm sorry this happened to you. You don't need to stick around with him. Especially these days, with so many kinds of STD's, etc., and even the Bible talks of adultery as being a good reason to dissolve the marriage. If he has repented, guarenteed he won't stray again, has definitely learned his lesson, go for counseling. It's your call. You don't have to stay with him. Or you could take that chance, and have him stray again. I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 7

I put up with it for almost 20yrs & then I turned to hating him.Don't stay in the marriage just because you love him!
If he truly loved you,then he wouldn't cheat.
Don't wait until you are too old & no one else wants you.Adultery is a biblical grounds for divorce & you are free to marry again as long as you were not the guilty party.

Answer 8

if he is no longer faithful anymore, it would really be hard to love him. sometimes we just have to leave a hurtful relationship, if u have confronted him, and he continues to be with someone else, your wasting your love on him, as he doesn't love u back. best to get free of it, even if u have to go against your own heart to do it, as it is just destructive to u to remain where your not loved. why create more heartache waiting for someone to change his mind, he may never do it. good luck

Answer 9

If you have kids you love him for helping you bring those into the world and then you walk out the door. Why get married if you aren't going to be faithful? He broke his vow and you have everyone's permission to leave and find someone else or just focus on loving yourself.

Answer 10

Its not easy. Sometimes you had enough of eating the same food and would like something different, but it does not meant you do not want to go back to your favourite food.

It sometimes same with sex, some man tend to have a fling to satisfy that apetite, but it does not meant they do not love yo

Well I am not the expert, because even me failed on this, but thought to share the experience.