After a bad fall out with someone i thought was my best friend, i ended up having some counselling months later when i sort of fell to bits, couldn't cope, then i was questioning everything and everyone, other friends new people i was meeting even my family, i ended up having a couple more months counselling because i felt so confused and now i'm not sure what to do.....
Part of me wants to find out more about how the mind works, (I was recommended a few books, counselling/physchology which i read) and the other part of me wants to be like i used to be, some people have said that i've changed, i'm too serious and cant take a joke any more, (by some people my mum,dad and brother) sometimes i would agree and sometimes not.....
i'm still confused as you might be able to tell, i'd appreciate any advise if maybe you've been in a similar position or maybe just know what you're talking about.
2007-02-19 18:56:23 · 12 answers · asked by talula 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are going through what many would call a "mourning Phase" - your trust and best friend "died" in your mind and as such you are going through the same symptoms as many of us go through when we have lost a loved one. I too had to have treatment for Anxiety when my Dad passed away - I was questioning everyones's health and as totally paranoid that everyone was going to die and leave me alone - but I am OK now it took a while - I had to learn to accept that sometimes we loose those we love but at the same time you gain new friends; new family etc. You will eventually be able to joke and laugh at people's joke - you are you and not what someone says you should be. Listen to your head and heart - what are they telling you to do - If you are being called into Psychology then that is your calling and by doing so you will be able to help others in the same situation you were. Persevere you will get there - and remember - no matter how dark the night is - in the morning the sun will come up and make it bright once more - or dull if you are in the UK ;-)
2007-02-19 19:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your situation. A very bad breakup triggered a long and painful battle with depression for me a few years ago. Counseling helped me, but didn't get me back to 'normal' I still felt very sad and alone. I never felt suicidal, just 'not myself.' Eventually I started taking Lexapro, a prescription antidepressant. I can't tell how much this had changed my life. Although my life was always 'live-able' the medication greatly improved quality of life. I really recommend exploring medical treatment options. After about 6 months on the meds, I was able to transition off them and am doing great. Good luck, I hope you feel better.
2007-02-20 03:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by megs1bq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is in an almost identical situation as yours. Her friendship with her best friend was shattered and she felt like she couldn't trust anyone after. It's been a year now, she finally got over it and she's lively again. But you have to face the problem you had with your best friend. Because as long as there are stuff hanging there, you won't get over it. If you want to feel like you again, you need to confront that person or truly recognize that you don't need that friend to survive. You'll always meet someone who'll change your life. Maybe not yet, but he/she will show up. You'll remember the many fun in life. My friend's is happy with her life now and she completely escaped that "incident" mentally.
2007-02-20 03:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Heell yeaah! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to say without knowing what all went down, but you should hold on to the things that you feel true to. I sometimes am told that I'm too serious, but sometimes it feels like it's just the old thing over and over again. Maybe you were hurt in a way that you never expected to? It would be hard to be as you used to again, but that is what life does sometimes to us, it changes us as we gain different experiences. I hope I can give more insights by knowing more about what happened.
2007-02-20 03:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by The Owl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we dont really become ourselves until we have been around for a bit without external pressures. For me it was school,I even went to a psychologist when I was 14.
Everyone has an internal voice which they can listen to to work things out for them and its easiest to hear it when we are being quiet and alone hence why some people meditate. That voice is really you and you should listen to it.
A couple of books I found helpful were 'Dibs in search of self' V.Axline and 'The truth shall set you free' Alice Miller.
2007-02-20 04:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by marvelous_mad_madam_mim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are growing up and changing all the time. You won't stay like you are now forever, but you won't be your old self again either. You will find a new way to be and you will be happy. You can trust me on that.
I grew up the fat kid and was punished almost daily by bullies and teachers. When I became a man, with the help of a few friends, I found inner peace and happiness. You will to.
2007-02-20 03:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it perhaps sounds crass but through life you will have people you love in your life who stay with you always and you will have people who are selfish and only happy when things are going well for them, they care nothing for how you feel so start and make friends with people you like don't judge them on your ex friend thats not fair you will keep some and discard some --kindly I hope but don't look any deeper you'll drive yourself mad so paste a smile on your face give them away and you'll get them back.Be Happy and let others be what they will.
2007-02-20 03:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** them, they're immatuer and you're probably moving towards some type of focus in life. I suggest hanging out with psychological intellectuals and seeing if they're you're crowd. Obviously that person who was your friend isn't the right direction in terms of people to be with. You may return back to that person you were if you want to be, but every living thing evolves and I think its best to have people who support evolving and becomming a better person. They'll sustain you, not limit who you are and who you have to be. Peace.
2007-02-20 03:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not study psychology. My up bringing was rubbish, I have a crap mother who abused me. My youngest brother has suddenly taken a keen interest in pstchology and is doing absolutely great. He now has such a peaceful mind and can see reasons for everything that happens. He lives a logical life now and he is happy.
2007-02-20 03:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! come on accept the truth. I know it is hard truth but truth. So accept the truth and be practical towards life. But u learnt a very important truth of life i.e., leave without someone u like. U r living right now, fighting and becoming strong. I know u r alone but some distance in life we have to cover alone. May be in future u get some one more special and better than that. I wish for u to come over over your hard days. Be positive.
2007-02-20 03:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by Abhi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋