I know this guy friend who likes spending time with a young girl.
She doesn't like her real Dad and he's basically M.I.A. in her life.
He will sometimes takes her out to eat, shopping or to a movie. Just simple fun stuff a girl her age likes.
She enjoys spending time with him because he always spoils her.
Since it's a small town, I just don't want others to talk and think something wierd is going on with the two .
Some will think the worst since they know she is not her daughter.
2007-02-19 18:36:59 · 10 answers · asked by Kari 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the real sad thing honey is there r good guys out there that would never hurt a young girl and want to be an important factor in a child's life. then there r the men that make guys like me scared to be near any young kids for fear someone will think i am one of the bad guys. u need to be very sure he is not one of the bad guys, always talk to her in a friendly way to see what they do together, NEVER let ur guard down.
as an example: little girls about three steal my heart, it is when me and my daughter was the closest and best friends. now she is a teenager and doesn't have time for an old fart like me. my heart misses when she needed me to fix things for her. i was invincible to her.
when my gf moved in her daughter took to me rt away, she never had a dad. she always wanted to sit with me in my recliner and watch tv. i would not let her unless her mom or other siblings was around in fear someone might mistake my in tensions. the real sad thing is she just wanted a father figure to love her. but the predators have made something so innocent, look so bad.
2007-02-19 18:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by jesse james 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as this man can be trusted. it would be easier to answer the question if we knew the relationship the mother has with this guy. (if the mother does not know this guy well and for a long time, she should not let them be by themselves alone. I assume she has been friends with him for a long time: In that case, I would not prohibit the friendship (some people are still in their right mind these days and see a child for who he/she is: a child. not a sex object, toy). I or one of my friends would come along when they are together. This friendship could benefit the daughter since she does not have a father figure apparently. even after re-assured that everything is cool, I would remain on my guards with him or anyone else for that matter. “… Bad reputation for either one of them.” Do you mean the little girl could get bad reputation as well? I can see what you are concerned about. Maybe if people in your town can see another person (such as the mom or yourself) come along with the two of them, they will accept the friendship easier and get less opportunities to gossip. It is also up to the mom to show them that she trusts (and not seem to trust. Sounds that you are not sure) this guy. Anyway, I would not be so concerned with bad/good reputation but the girl's welfare. If all is genuine, the friendship is honest and real, people who have nasty comments will eventually calm down. also, If I was the mom, no matter what, I would have already told my daughter that if one day, she feels any (ANY) man/woman is acting weird, touch her in peculiar ways and places, ask her to keep a secret or that it is their secret, she should immediately tell me. I would make sure that she has no fear in doing so and I emphasize its importance, no matter what, male friend or not…
2016-05-23 21:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this guys relation to this girl??? And what is this guys relationship with you?
There is nothing wrong with an adult male being friends with a 12 year old girl or boy. As long as its a healthy relationship (Eg he is like a substitute father or Uncle) then there is no issue. It all depends on your friends personal life and motives.
You should discuss your concerns with your friend if you have concerns.
People will talk if that is their nature... Gossip starts from some idiot expressing their fantasy based veiw of what they conceive. Aslong as the guys intentions are good, then people will see friends, if he makes the wrong move or gets too touchy... then people will perceive it differently.
2007-02-19 18:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mark V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does her real dad know about that? If not, then it is time to get the authorities involved. And why wouldn't he take to a movie her mom as well or her other friends?
I hope you will talk about it with your teacher or some other responsible person and do something about it.
2007-02-19 18:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has the okay of her mom, I see nothing wrong with it-as a male role model in her life. Since nothing "wrong" is going on, she needs that role model in her life. People who know the girl, and those that know this man, will know that there is nothing to "talk " about. Take care.
2007-02-19 18:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the mom allowing this to happen? If he truly just want to be a friend, bring the mom too or a chaperon like you along. If not he should stay away.
2007-02-19 18:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is very very wrong, if he wants to do stuff with this child than he should take along an adult liker her mother or older sibling. what the heck is wrong with the mother? why would she even allow this? i pray to god that nothing else is going on
2007-02-19 19:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be okay and nothing weird going on. You know your friend; is he a perve? I'm wondering how they became acquainted in the first place...
2007-02-19 19:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why isnt her mom in any of this? i would definatly get some adult involved. you never know what that guy has in mind. hes probably currently trying to gain her trust....
2007-02-19 19:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is dispeakable
2007-02-19 18:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋