i am torn with my life ....................?

Question

i am 26 and soon to be 27 - i have been with my fella for over 5 yeasr have a house together etc etc but ive become increasingly confused about stuff. i am torn with my friends i have work friends who are my age having babies talk about house stuff -which is great as thats on my level - then there are my friends who i go out with who are a few years younger all live at home have no responsibilities and go out getting drunk pulling guys - then all i get to here about is so and so etc.... my fella goes out with his mates about twice a week and to be honest it gets on my nerves - going out getting drunk - i am just feeling a little bit lost and stuck in the middle of grown ups my own age then my friends who have no clue or responsiblities. ..

Answer 1

It sounds like you've grown up a little, and the friends that you go out with have not. They will catch up quickly when they have to deal with the responsibilities you have, but until then, there will be a bit of a gap.

You could start socialising a little with the friends from work - go out for a drink with them on a Friday evening after work or something, or arrange a long lunch during the week.

Enjoy the old friends you have - they'll catch up with you soon enough. People's lives run along different courses, but we all end up on similar levels eventually.

Answer 2

sounds like you have two very different groups of friends hun - one - slightly more mature with a direction in their lives and the others - carefree and casual! Theres no right or wrong group here - but they both conflict with what the other has so no wonder you're left feeling a bit lost! you just need to seperate these feelings that you have from what you hear- at the end of the day only you can decide what is best for your lifes direction.
iWith regards your boyfriend - going out twice a week isnt that bad! i know guys that could be out six nights a week drinking!! Maybe you should just have a chat with him that you're a bit concerned about the time he spends out drinking - dont come across like his mother though as he'll automatically get his back up - but just see if he can give you a bit of guidance about where you're going as a couple in life! Good luck!xx

Answer 3

dear geri,
well i would like to make u clear out that having a baby for the sake of it doesnt help at all ,its when u get a baby u mess up the baby`s life not knowningly btu naturaly cause ur state is not perfect as well u know what i mean right.u said u go out with ur work friends right?ok no problem and u liek that too right and u only like that then be with them lil bit more an dabt ur younger friends well so what if they dont have a responsibility ..as the way i see it take it this way that they are bringing out the child in ya ,i never believe in this theory that if u be friends with somebody u should dump anybody....take for example one day u are very very stressed out allright?nothing to do and feel lazy tell me do u want a friend who is of ur age and talks smart and intelligent open a debate wouldnt be u more stressed out and in the same position some young friend of ya comes and forcingly takes u too a club or soemthing ,what do u do ??atleast u tap ur foot on the music ,see thats the diffrence..and y eah if u dont like ya fella to get drunk going out and all ,,,well thats not gonna happen isnt it ....right now u are too much stressed out i can say so go with ya young friends .go to a disco if u dont like it then also dance dance dance baby....hoep i understood ur problem
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god bless
vagabond
P:S =ITS NOT WHAT U SEE ,ITS HOW U SEE

Answer 4

I totally understand what you are saying. It sounds like you want to go out and enjoy yourself, but are now thinking more seriously of the prospect of having children. That's great because it's a good balance, but it sounds like your partner has a lot of growing up to do?

Just try a little experiment.... think of a blank piece of paper (or get one if you wish), and put on it all the things in your life that you really couldn't do without. It might be work, your boyfriend, even pets or just a hobby... Then, see what you end up with and hopefully it will make you realise what you've got, and more importantly what is missing.

Answer 5

I can't understand why you have a problem with this. You have something that most people wish they could have. Your married, you have a house, you have work friends and more friends who are younger than you and still want to go out with you, and you have a husband who goes out ONLY twice a week giving you some time to yourself. Your younger friends are young! they are still experiencing what life is all about. When the time comes for them to leave home who are they going to turn to for advice. You of course.

Answer 6

Just try to focus on the good things. Tell your fella you wanto go out with him and his friends at least once a week. and going out twice a week is too much anyway. but if you have the money its ok. talk to him tell him what you like and nicely be happy about your life

Answer 7

I wish i could answer this for you, i too am in a relationship where my goals differ to his. All i can say is hang in there if you can see him in your future, men do eventually grow up and take on responsibilities, i see positive changes in him every day and know and believe that some day we'll be on the same page. Life is confusing and somewhat distorted, but it gets clearer with age... be possitive!

Answer 8

i think its time u went out twice a week im not saying go get drunk.go out have a meal with a few friends.. r u and your partner thinking about kids? i think you have a great husband a nice house etc.. don't worry try and go doing things even joining a gym or something..good luck

Answer 9

You don't say that you are married. Are you just living with this guy?

Answer 10

It's time to have a baby.