I love the kids, I love my team mates, I love the families. But just recently, we got new owners. The new owner is excellent, she's buying lots of resources and, because she's a teacher, has great ideas for improvement. BUT...she's promoted one of my co-workers to director, and she has never liked me. She's over-riding all my (and other people's) decisions, and basically being really authoritarian and making me feel like I can't do anything right. What to do???
2007-02-19 18:11:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
if you have the ability to be ultra gracious then you learned it for just this widow in time.
this person needs to have a certain tact and diplomacy in order to function in said position. you need to get together with this person in order to form an amicable understanding (if not personal then certainly professional).
if harmony cannot be reached and you have done all that you can then what is there to stay for. that being said, let me remind you about your mind and your subconscious:
your mind is the strongest implement that you will ever need, want or desire. it can make so so many wonderful things happen in your life together with positive energy. the flip side of that is that a person could probably go as far as to make one's self sick and you don't want to go there....yeah?
but with your mind focused on a goal you can do this thing.....you know.....carpe diem.
your subconscious is a wealth of information. you could liken it to a hard drive or similar storage for input. i used to make use of mine when a particularly difficult problem was on my plate. we had a dried up riverbed that forked the main river so the roar of the rushing water could still drown out man-made noise. it suited my need to totally get away from mankind for a time. before i took my stroll i asked (nobody in particular) for a solution to this problem (the details were, of coarse, also in my sub conscious). during my stroll of about an hour or two, with my dog, i thought of nothing pertaining to my problem and mostly reminisced in my memories.
when i returned, it really didn't feel like i had the answer to my problem but when i was faced with it the answer arrived out of nowhere.
through all of your life your subconscious is receiving input from all of your senses. consequently, you have answers about all these things that you've been seeing, smelling, hearing etc. you have only to ask and allow yourself the time,without interruption, and you'll be surprised what answers you'll receive.
my good wishes are with you....again, carpe diem
2007-02-19 18:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be very hard. Dealing with people that don't have good people skills is the worst in my opinion. What to do? Well, the first thing would be to talk with her sincerly personally and one on one. Come up with a couple,(not more than two or three) things that really bother you about your relationship with her. Try to use the I feel....statement and not the You always...or never...It takes a lot of courage, and for me a lot of praying before I can confront someone (especially in the work place). Its alot easier with family. But, it's totally worth it. If her attitude toward you doesn't improve, start writing it down. Keep a journal of negative and positive (if any) remarks she makes, for about a week. Then go to your boss. Explain to her how much you love your job and how you want to get along with (mean girl), but that you need her advice on how to handle the situation. These steps should bring about some change. If its still not improving in a month or so, start filling out a resume'. Just remember if you leave, leave on good terms for YOUR sake. Blessings!
2007-02-19 18:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by molly hadley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep doing the right thing. you may be the only one who really knows how to take care of the kids, and there is no reason to punish them for the new owner's bad choices.
good will win, and you will be at the same place in a few years after this person is gone.
have a nice day.
2007-02-19 18:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by sharrron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to other coworkers and see if they too are unhappy and then go and talk to the new owner about it, and see if there is anyway that things can be resolved, because it would be a shame for you to leave a job you love because of one person.
2007-02-19 18:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...its always tease, tease, tease...
2007-02-19 18:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by sam hill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋