Parents seem to have alot of dating restrictions for girls......?

Question

like how they can't date until they're a certain age, out of high school or whatever. I'm just curious, do some do the same type of thing for their boys or do they just let them date freely?

Answer 1

I have a teenage daughter and a baby on the way. I have no problem letting my daughter date (if she wants to) as long as it's supervised. I would be just as protective with a boy.

First of all, girls are under an enormous amount of pressure the be sexy. And at a young age too. Look at Mary-Kate and Ashley clothing at Wal-Mart (of all places). The clothes they make are cute as hell, super trendy, and slightly revealing. And these are made for girls up to age 12 or so. The age of girls losing their virginity is getting younger and younger. Which is sad in my opinion. When I met the love of my life I was very sorry that he wasn't my first and that I carried the baggage of other men into our sex life. Plus, with STD's running rampant, HPV causes cervical cancer, (you can only get HPV from sleeping around), and AIDS being a higher risk for white teenagers than any other in America, why risk dating too youg without supervision??

The you've got boys. If you're the mom of a boy, the last thing in the world you want to hear is an angry father on the other end of a telephone call accusing your little boy of knocking up his daughter. Or worse, of raping her! Fathers of girls can get pretty ugly (I had a father once) when it comes to their daughters.

So, I will keep a lsoe eye on my kids no matter their gender until they are at least 18. I don't believe in too harsh restrictions (despite what my 13yr old will tell you) because I think it fosters animosity and prevarication between a mother and her child.

Answer 2

I am a mother who has daughter in her teens and i do have some restrictions with regards to dating is concerned. Though my daughter is now 19y/o, i still dont allow her to go out on date more so if it's at night. And she understands it. Thank God she does. I always accompany her most of the time when they have school functions, at night most especially. I dont know if i am being too hard on her but for me, it is for her own good. I want her to finish college and land a good job for her future. And it can only be done with a lots of guidance from parents and elders. Either boy or girl, parents do have the right to impose restrictions for as long as it does not violate their rights to grow as an individual. Parents wish only the best for their sons/daughters. I knew!

Answer 3

Parents who care about their children, girls or boys, have dating restrictions because they want to make sure that their children are safe and mature enough to handle the responsibility that goes along with the freedom that is given when dating is allowed. They have to feel that you are able to resist peer pressure and are capable of making the right decisions. Wrong choices lead to ruined lives. There are a lot of parents losing their children to drugs, reckless behavior or have grandchildren to raise or lose grandbabies to abortion or adoption. Boy or girl, restrictions are a way of parents saying we care because we love you.

Answer 4

If I had kids, it would be the same for boy and girl, no dating until 16, and there would be some tougher restrictions. I would rather them dislike me when they are teens and later realize why I did the things I did, then for them to get pregnant or worse get an STD and die before me.

Answer 5

I am the eldest of four. In my family it went girl boy boy girl. My parents were quite strict on the dating and curfew thing with me and they actually followed through and had the same rules for my brothers. I plan on having consistant rules for my children, regardless of their sex. It is different for girls, there is alot more to worry about. My mum said that she always worried about me more than she worried about the boys, but I think that if your children can understand why the rules are there you can keep your daughters safe and teach your sons how to respect women.

Answer 6

My parents say that I am not allowed to date until I am 16, but I have vowed to myself and my future husband NOT to date until I am older, or no longer feel convicted not to date. My parents don't have any restrictions for either of my brothers though. The older one is understandable, he is 23 but my little brother is only 13 and he is starting to get interested, ewwww...(for me, I guess). But I think he will be smart about it too...Good question though. It is an interesting thing to think about.

Answer 7

THe rules in my house for both my boys and daughter are the same...
NO DATING UNTIL THEY ARE 16.
Considering I had my first at 16, I wish someone had those guidelines for me! My kids understand that being a single young mom is hard, and hopefully they won't find themselves in the same situation. (I'm setting the boundaries I wish would have been set for me)

Answer 8

parents aren't so worried about the boys being taken advantage of. I have a boy and a girl. They boy will be taught 'no means no and don't lie to get what you want'. My girl will be taught not to believe 'sweet talking and not to kiss till she is 35!'.

Girls have the rules because they in general are not the predoators!

Answer 9

for some people it's a culture thing. Some cultures or religions are against dating etc... i was just a normal girl, normal friends, never in trouble. But my southern raised step mom insisted that my dad not let me go out past 10 but my step brothers who had been in juvie and suspended from school could go freely. UNFAIR! their logic was if my bro got a girl pregnant it's her parents problem, and if i got preg it was theirs! WTF? i wasn't even doing that back then! so who knows why, but yes some paretns set limits like that based on male/female..but expect them to grow up and expect equal treatment as adults..whatever!

Answer 10

in sensible families with values parents set an age for dating for their boys and thier girls. From what I hear there are less restrictions now, and more pregnancies.