I'm 21,my sister's 30.My sister has 3 kids by 3 guys.She has no job(by choice) & lives off a combo of my 7-year-old deaf niece's social security check,food stamps,& WIC.I'm living with my fiance,who is also 21.We both work full time & support ourselves.We're getting married in Sept. & paying for the wedding ourselves.My parents promised to help out,but backed out because they had to help my sis,something they always do.Recently,my sister asked me if she could borrow all my wedding things for her own wedding.This includes the decorations,my dress,veil,garter,everything but the wedding rings.She says she's marrying the dad of her youngest child & they're waiting until after I get married so they can use my stuff.She gets in violent fights with this guy every other week.She burns his things,kicks him out,cops are called.I'm offended she even asked b/c my fiance & I worked very hard to pay for our wedding.I feel she's just trying to get attention.Am I being selfish?Should I loan it to her?
2007-02-19 17:35:54 · 9 answers · asked by Keruma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NO! she needs to get off her a.s.s and stop being a leech. No matter if she calles you an uncaring sister be straight forward with her!! she needs a rude awakening. Your parents have been spoon-feeding her for way to long!!!
2007-02-19 17:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't live your sisters life for her and you don't have to agree with her decisions or be responsible for her happiness. All you can do is be her sister, and be there for her. Take the high road here, and be gracious. You can pick and choose what you don't mind loaning her. Let her use the dress and the veil, but keep the garter for your self. Maybe let her use some of the decorations, except the most "special" ones.
As for the relationship she is in, that's not for you to decide, whether she is right or wrong, she's going to have to find out on her own. The bed she is making, she's going to have to sleep in, not you.
2007-02-19 17:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's certain and desperate to marry this guy or woman, i does not lend her the flaws, i'd provide them to her as her wedding ceremony recent. have self assurance me you're unlikely to have any use for the stuff except you sell it on eBay..except of path you're already making plans on divorcing your fiance and marrying somebody else quickly! The dress will bypass out of prefer, the garter gets tossed, and the decorations will assemble airborne dirt and dirt. particular your sister is a loser.. yet she's nevertheless your sister. My mom wore my aunt's wedding ceremony dress lower back in 1945.. it style of feels in basic terms in the near previous that persons get the thought a marriage dress is a few thing sacred that should in basic terms be worn via one guy or woman! see you later as you get to placed on it first... have a great wedding ceremony, bypass it alongside, and desire it brings your sister success and happiness!
2016-10-16 01:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister hasn't acted in responsible ways. I would generally lean towards siblings helping each other and standing by each other. However, in your case, sometimes it comes down to tough love. You try to love her the best you can, but it doesn't mean you will become a carpet for her to walk on. When she shows A LOT more responsibility you'll have a lot more reason to help her but not this time.
2007-02-19 17:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her no becuz u want to show ur kids all the things from ur wedding and u r weorking hard for it
tell her to get her so called "soon-to be" husband to pay for it
ur r not selfish
2007-02-19 17:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl no an dit might seem a lil mean or whateva but it seeems to me that she aint getting married no time soon she just wanna be like u for tha time being
but hell she can do for herself i mean she can work and so can a baby daddy but if shes nothing getting child support she might wanna
2007-02-19 17:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think everything you have for your wedding is very special. If you do not feel like loan it to her, tell her yourself. She needs to take care of herself.
2007-02-19 17:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you do not want to let her use it, so in the end the choice is yours...
2007-02-19 17:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sure, theres nothing to be hoarder about in that! unless you are.
2007-02-19 17:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by waway_bato2005 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋