I found out some very hurtul things my ex said about me to the girl he was trying to get to know. The thing is, when we were together, I did nothing to him but help him, we always had respect for each other, and never really faught. I helped him thru so much. He cared about me and showed it when we were together. But I found out he told this girl he was never really attracted to me and that he never really loved me. When I confronted him he said it wasn't true. I know when we were together the attraction was there, and I feel I am physically attractive, he knows this. I found out from this other girl, the one he was seeing. But if she is lying why would he stay with her? He did for a few months and it ended. If he did say this why? To make her feel better?? Either way, can someone comment who can relate?? Guys??
I care because I never expected it from him and to be honest it hurt...alot.
2007-02-19 16:56:42 · 5 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
There are several possibilities. He might have been attracted to you but felt the other girl to be more attractive, and so had to say to her that you weren't attractive. If this is so, then he is like a butterfly, and flits from one girl to another. This seems to be the case since you say he has left the other girl too. You need to forget him and get on with someone who really loves you.
The other girl might have felt that you are really more attractive than her, and wanted you to be kept away from him. That could be why she told you that he didn't find you attractive so that she could have him to herself. Now that she too has broken away from him, you can talk to her freely and find out if what she had said was true.
Partly what he told her about you and what she told you about you, may be right. It doesn't matter now, since he is not with either of you any more.
While I sympathize with your bitterness, it is time for you to move on with your life, and find someone else. This bitter experience would make you more careful in assessing people and you could emerge more satisfied in your future relationship with somebody else. Time heals and so please don't ruminate over the past. Have a positive attitude, realize that there are all types of men (and women too) in this world, and look to the future with hope. Good luck.
2007-02-19 18:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either she was trying to destroy or self esteem for whatever reason, or he really did say that.
If he did, it's probably part of a persona he's adopted around her. For instance, if he wanted her to think he was sensitive, he would wipe his eyes and say that he recently ended a meaningful relationship. If he wanted to make himself seem like a 'badboy', or just generally aloof (which may be the case here), he would act as if he never cared about the last girl he went out with.
Or, maybe, he never DID care about you, and just acted as if he did so you would stay with him.
2007-02-20 01:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chesu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just trying to show her that he was over you. I do not think he really was, and that is why he was angered and hurt. He not only had to prove it to her but himself too. Or it could have been she said it because she was worried that you were still compotition. All I know is that she said it because she thought you were compotition, but if it was true or not I cannot say.
2007-02-20 01:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up call this health cornor
go to singels and dating ;)
2007-02-20 01:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by nabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoot him.
2007-02-20 05:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋