I have been friends with this guy for a year. The past few months he has been pursuing a relationship. He has told me he loves me, wants me to love him, can't stop thinking about me and he has written me several letters saying he can't stop loving me and wants more but doesn't want to pressure me. He speaks only Spanish, yet I speak English and Spanish so it works. I understand generally Latinos are generally more affectionate, he is always trying to kiss and hug and very touchy and has said "you are too beautiful for me" and "te amo" and "te quiero mucho" and I know "te amo" is pretty serious. I care about him SO much, and I fell for him a long time ago. I am saving myself for marriage so it concerned me because he isn't a virgin and I know it's hard to wait. I told him basically there was no chance of me having sex with him right now because I am waiting. He has told me over and over again that he isn't interested in my body or sex but loves my heart.
2007-02-19 16:54:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I think he is so amazing and I love him a lot, but I really don't want to get hurt. I've told him exactly how I feel. There was a huge misunderstanding a month ago that was neither of our faults and I thought I could never talk to him again. He took the effort to talk to me and work things out and tell him how much he cared. I think this shows he is a kind person and I would think if he wanted only sex he would have gone elsewhere already. The only thing is my friends/family don't approve--partly because he only speaks Spanish and works a blue collar job, and I go to University. It's a stupid reason, I don't care about his job, I love him and care about him. What should I do??
Any advice, opinions and criticism is appreciated.
2007-02-19 16:57:35 · update #1
If he has had sex do you think he could wait or no??
Thank you!! :)
2007-02-19 16:57:55 · update #2
he sounds like a keeper. go ahead and pursue it if you want, but be sure to stick to your values. if he cares about you, he will respect that. but don't turn him down just because you think he wouldn't be willing to wait. he could be.
hope this helps
if you love and care about him, you should have no doubts. and your family/friend's opinions don't seem valid. they're judging him on his job and what language he speaks? at least he has a job. there is no shame in blue collar jobs.
and yes, people can be 'born again virgins' i've known some people who are not virgins, but decide to wait again because that's what their SO prefers.
i'd say go for it. if you're worried about getting hurt, that's a chance you always have to take. that's how we learn. that's how we find the person that's truly for us. if it wasn't like this, we wouldn't have 'dating' people would just pair up with the first person who comes along.
good luck, and god bless.
2007-02-19 16:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh jeez...it does seem like he cares about you a lot. I'm proud of you for saving yourself for marriage, I'm doing the same thing too. I think you should have a serious talk with your parents and him. He needs to learn english and your parents need to start getting to know him better. Good luck :]
2007-02-20 00:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for practicing abstinence before marriage.
Are you planning on working after college?
Sometimes it may bother a guy if she is better educated than him and gets a higher paying job than him.
But, if he's cool with the idea, then I see no reason not to marry him when the time comes.
2007-02-20 01:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who truly loves you will respect you enough to wait for marriage.
2007-02-20 01:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If everything you said it true and he is true to your heart he will wait.
2007-02-20 00:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋