Great job, great wife, nice house, still feel like I'm missing something... What do I do??

Question

Maybe I'm just whiny or melodramatic, but even though I have a good job as an engineer (rocket scientist, literally), a loving wife, and live a pretty cushy life, I feel like something is missing. I feel that I don't do anything important... anything that matters. My wife says most people don't do anything important or great. Should I just suck it up? Do we just accept our lives or does it make sense to try to make a major change? What should I do?? Hardly anything seems to make me really happy anymore. Suggestions?

Answer 1

Try doing something that makes you feel good about yourself and those around you. Do some volunteer work for a school, sports team or whatever interests you. Make an effort to do little things for your wife, send flowers to her while she's at work, bring home a card saying how wonderful you think she is, etc. Find a hobby that you love, coin collections, antiques, whatever. Do something meaningfull with your life, it sounds like you're stuck in a rut you need to climb out of.

Answer 2

Do volunteer work to help people is that what you mean?
Have children if you have none!! they are a great reason for getting out of bed
but yes there is always heaps you can do to make people have a better life
help the Aboriginals they need a ton of help
but don't do things just so people will pat you on the back & say what a great fellow
just be the silent helper it will be more rewarding
Help the youth get off drugs so they can have a life the list is endless
join a church etc

Answer 3

Spirituality, the only joys from life come from spirituality, I suggest checking into the Baha'i Faith. Also, charity, while you may be going through a confusing period when you give to those less fortunate and devote your time to making their life materially balanced, it will clarify the importance of what you take for granted and you'll be thankful as well as having changed someones life. How do you know that if given the right opportunity they couldn't have supercede you in life. I think if you give to others like African kids and don't go to sterotypical africa, there are plenty of Africans out there who are intelligent with a thirst for knoledge, that you'll realize these people are souls just like you with equal worth. Also, you'll take a lot of joy from teaching and helping others with your wife. The key to any relationship, especially marriage, is God. Picture the idea of a pyramid with you on the left side, your wife on the right side and God as the topmost point. The only way to be closer is the center point of the pyramid.

Answer 4

This is a sort of saturation point, when you have almost got every thing, which most others have to struggle for !
What you lack, is some real peace of mind, and spiritual angle to your materially fulfilled worldly life.
Any major change in work, or career ,also won't give you that happiness you are looking for.
Now is the time, when you should try and search answers for your own fulfillment.
Try and meditate, by emptying your mind of all superficial thoughts, sit alone on the floor, light an incense stick, and look within your own self .
close your eyes, and let go of the anxiety, and constant whirlpool of thoughts, circling around our every day problems, and trivialities.
You need to connect to that super power, which is unseen, yet controling our destiny, by some remote control.
find out your guilt complexes, try and resolve, formulate your own prayers, and develop your mental strength, by every day sitting and meditating, atleast for half an hour, in seclusion.
you may also read some elementary books by J. Krishnamurthi, for guidelines on how to achieve peace of mind.

Answer 5

What you're feeling is a void that can only be filled by God. You may be a Christian, or maybe not. You may not even think there is a God, but I guarantee you, that emptiness, the feeling that nothing on this earth is fulfilling you, it's a calling. It's a calling to draw closer to Him, or to begin a relationship with Him. Your true purpose is in God. There is more to life than what this what this world values as being important or necessary for happiness. This point is often shown in the faces of poverty stricken children who still smile and enjoy life as if they had everything they could ever need or want.

I challenge you, to try. Not to necessarily run out and go to church, but to ask Jesus to reveal himself to you. Just ask Him once (even silently to yourself) and see what happens in your life!
God bless!

Answer 6

Buy a motorcycle, take a week, and ride off somewhere. It will clear your mind, and you might just find the passion that you need to make your life feel complete.

Personally I volunteer in my spare time, I'm a search and rescue member and saving lives and the comraderie feel great.

When It all gets to be too much I get on the bike and ride off somewhere, it's amazing just how therapeutic that machine that I bought to be a toy and cheap transport can be.

Answer 7

Its funny, a lot of people want those things, but when they get them, it is not enough|


What is the missing ingredient?

What is life all about?

It is about love|


Now love here is defined as truly caring for the other person, wanting what is best for that other person, and wanting what will truly make him or her happy|

Now a married person can start with his own family|

A married person can ask the question: "do I truly care for my spouse for his or her own sake, or is he or she just a means for my *own* happiness|

Marriage is *meant* to be happy, so the only reason that it becomes unhappy is that selfishness is involved| Get rid of the selfishness and you have solved the problem - voila!|


And take that caring and loving stance towards others outside of the home| If you do, your life will be meaningful and happy, for we were created to love|


Now there is something in our culture that - for lack of a better term - can be called satanic|

If you show that you care, you are immediately punished and put down in various possible ways|

If you do good to others, you are cynically called a "sucker."

If you show charity, you are mocked|

If you show respect, you are made out to be a fool|


We have to be on the look-out for this, because this is what is happening in our society today|




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Answer 8

Just imagine a day without great job, great wife, nice house.
That means you lost everything valuable in your life.
That time, you could feel your situation in present is so good.
Why do we have to do something important while the most important thing is your family

Answer 9

One of the Human paradoxes is that we want our lives to be comfortable, then when it is, we want some excitement. And when it's exciting and uncertain, we want comfort and security.

I always tell people if they feel depressed or unfulfilled, they should volunteer somewhere that matters... a hospital... homeless shelter... with disabled children. I'd be willing to bet that 99.9% of them would rather keep complaining and being "unhappy" than even trying just once to volunteer and help someone less fortunate.

Answer 10

Could be a midlife crisis (seriously). Have a kid, write a book, produce some meaningful research...some form of generativity: it's not rocket science (you must get that a lot). BTW, how is rocket science not important/great? Your degree itself is an accomplishment.