my friend is dating this guy who mistreats her so bad and disrespects her constanly! she gets mad at him but she says she loves him. how do i get her to realize that hes not right with her without making her mad at me??
2007-02-19 16:47:26 · 9 answers · asked by ghetto fabolous 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and i have talked to her but she doesnt wanna leave him!!
2007-02-19 16:55:29 · update #1
I've been where u are...! ^^" with my friend...
before they started dating, he was so caring, but then, "the prince turned into a frog"...
anyhoo, here's what I did, I gave it my all, I talked to my friend, I gave her advice whenever she meT an obstacle, I constantly told her there are many other fishes in the sea <
unfortunately, I had to leave before the problem was settled, but one year down the line, surprisingly, she left him! everything worked out the way I wanted it to... she fell hard, but she said I was there to catch her... *flattered*
what I'm trying to say is that, basically, u can't make her realize it, cuz she has to realize it on her own and she will, it juz takes time... everything has a way of working out, don't worry abt it too much, juz be there for her when she falls, try your very best to be by her side and give her advice..
Good luck! ^^*
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2007-02-19 17:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you genuinely care for your friend and her emotional well being. However, sometimes a person just needs to learn from their own mistakes.
If she has a habit of dating "losers" then there is little you can do to help her. In that case, she has self-esteem issues that she must work out on her own.
On the other hand, if she usually dates men who more accurately represent her high self-worth, then this guy is just a flash in the pan who is giving her something emotionally that you don't see because you're not in the relationship. If this is the case, it will pass eventually.
Both men and women are attracted to partners who match their self-worth. Having said that, this problem is, unfortunately, not one you can solve for your friend.
Just be there for her when she's down, when she dumps him, or when he dumps her. That's the best advice anyone can give you.
Good luck, and God bless
2007-02-20 00:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sparxmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only tell your friend so much, but she will not listen because she is already set in her mind that this guy is the one she loves. So, you need to ask her this. "If you think that this guy loves you, then why the heck does he treat you like this. That is not love at all, no one treats someone like that if they say they love that person."
Your friend is blind. And she only can make her own decisions in leaving him when he decides to either hit her or something worse. Right now, he is manipulating her mind thinking that he loves her, which he doesn't give a damn about her at all. If she is having sex with this guy, then that shows you why she is still with him. He is using her for sex and he is also disrespecting her by using her like that. Plus, she has no respect for herself and her body for him to use her body for pleasure. He is in it for the pleasure, not for the love.
I hope this made sense. But, some day she will realize it when he happens to hit her or do something worse to her....lets just hope she will open her eyes to see how evil this guy really is.
2007-02-20 01:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isnt enough word you can say to make her change her mind..ofcourse you can talk to her and tell her your point of view..but if she says she loves this guy..then she need to become confident..and unfortunally..realise for herself..what a waste of time this guy is..and all you can do is be there for her and support her through the bad times.
2007-02-20 00:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you Can make anyone do anything! If her bf is more important than a gf then she's going to go with Him. And in my exerience, he Will be the most important. Sorry. @8-]
2007-02-20 00:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has low self esteem. Talk to her and be supportive. Tell her how you are concerned about his abusiveness. If you say nothing, you may be sorry if something bad happens.
2007-02-20 00:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks he is right for her in her heart, there is nothing you can do, if shes going out with him just because he's popular or just so she can have a boyfriend then say something.
2007-02-20 00:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to her and let her know!
2007-02-20 00:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Chilling Gangster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her
2007-02-20 00:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by karina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋