hubby instigated me,i threw his phone @ him,which hit himon the joint(i didnt know).Even before i realised,he slapped me very hard.I was so angry that i didnt react,after which he came to say sorry..i said i would accept it only if hit him back...he said ok ..when i did..he threw me..hit me ....
i am not able to forgive him and this is not the first time.
Someone help
2007-02-19 16:44:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is no way for a husband and wife to be acting. You two need to grow up and start acting like a married couple. Instead, you are acting so immature.
This shows you that you two don't have any 'respect' for each other. Until you can respect each other, then maybe you can start working on the other problems that you two have.
You two need some help, so why not get these two books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". I challenge you both to start growing up and start respecting each other and read these two books, otherwise, you two are both going to be separated. Because, right now, this is not a marriage.
2007-02-19 16:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both should live separately and get counseling separately (I almost never recommend counseling on here). If you have children, they will pick up on the violence and grow up assuming that this is how married couples relate to eachother if this isn't stopped. I wouldn't spend a moment worrying about divorce or whether the relationship can work...you both need to explore why you get so physical when you are angry and work at ways of stopping that. No relationship can last long otherwise.
2007-02-20 00:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you should consider separating for a few weeks so you can clear your thoughts and figure out what you want to do, and most importantly, so you can (both) be safe. What is happening between you right now is not something that can be fixed without marriage counseling. You will wind up hating each other and wasting your time as well otherwise. Life is too short to allow that kind of stuff in it. Respect yourself not to treat him or anyone else any worse than you want to be treated. This is for your own peace of mind. It's not about pointing fingers or getting even. It's about gaining and maintaining inner peace and self respect. If it doesn't feel right to be with him, choose not to. It's your life. You choose your own level of contentedness with your own life.
2007-02-20 00:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship should be halted immediately. You are both too violent and should both seek mental help. If two people love each other they never use violence against each other. That it what animals do - not human beings with any sense.
2007-02-20 00:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get out of this, asap, he is abusive, causing u to be the same way. chances are he isn't going to stop doing this, even though he knows its wrong. better to be alone than with an angry man. u both seem to have these issues, where no one wants to forgive the other one. best to get out of it, before it gets worse.
2007-02-20 08:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are seriously disfunctional, and need serious therapy for anger management.. both of u are actting like children, rather then mature adults, and if i was to guess, u both enjoy all the drama ur causing, and have serious mental problems..
2007-02-20 01:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very insulting...the worst thing that can really affect any relationship and changes the feelings of love to hatered is disrespect...actually this is abuse...that's very barbaric both u and him...i suggest u both need counseling
2007-02-20 00:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its over. Get out and leave him. Its an abusive relationship. How can you respect one another now? End it for good and get out of the relationship.
2007-02-20 00:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have anger issues. Try some counseling.
2007-02-20 00:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you need to stop all this drama, this is crazy, itime to
get your act together, this abuse should not be going on. both
of you need to get counseling or you need to get out of this
marriage, it not good for any one.
2007-02-20 01:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋