i went to my boyfriends house for the first time this past sunday to meet his mom and sister and her friend who is practically related to them because he hangs out there so much. i got there and i was nice and polite and talked some, but soon, and for most of the night, i hardly said a word, quiet as a mouse. Now, thats not how i usually am at all, but i was really nervous and didnt want to make a bad impression, so i was really quiet!! i feel like ive ruined everything =[ how horrible is this and please say i'm not the only one!
2007-02-19 16:00:14 · 4 answers · asked by ♥HF♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
girl, it's okay.... we all go Through a stag of nothing to stay, every now and then. You will have plenty of other times to talk to them and conversate. It is probably because they were all together. Try to get them one by one and talk to them, if it's that important. If it was a lot of family members, you know how we act when we get around our people. You will be okay!
2007-02-19 17:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by make?love*not$war! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HF,
You've done great! I am proud the way you handle yourself. The first and sometimes the second impression is very important. Your intentions was not to go there and be loud and obnoxious! You were nervous because you wanted to show total respect for the family. Also being quiet and content gives you enough time to really get to know his family, this way in the future you'll know how to base your character on each member. You didn't ruin the first meeting, and they know that you were nervous.
The best way to really fit into your bf's family is to befriend his sister. She can help you relate to her family and really guild you of the dos and dons. It takes reasonable time to get to know the family. They are new to you, but within understanding and continue communication (when you always visit there) you'll get to know each other you be won't be nervous.
Keep in mind the mouse always tries to be quiet because the cat is more quieter. You have done great! Imagine if you're too talkative or loud and find yourself saying the wrong thing? And then you will be very upset with yourself, but you didn't! Good Job
God Bless
2007-02-20 00:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal to be nervous the first time you meet your bf's family. Also because they all knew each other, including the family friend, it might have been hard for you to think of something to say all the time. Just give it time, and maybe try to meet the folks/ mom for coffee nearby, and see how that goes, the sister and other friend you might want to just "hang with" sometime too. Hope this helps. I was nervous to meet my bf's (now Husband's) family, but we have been married almost 15 years.
2007-02-20 00:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by kimtyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think you have anything to worry bout...i am not good bout meeting the in laws so to speak i dont say a word unless i am asked a question...but at the end they always end up liking me..you just need time to get to know them and see how you can talk and be around them. In no time at all you will be fine. Just be yourself.
2007-02-20 02:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋