I have a son and his aunt comes over once a week to see him, will this baby take away my sons attention from my family? How do I talk to her that I don't want my son's relationship with her to change without sounding like its all about me?
2007-02-19 15:47:59 · 8 answers · asked by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Mention that you wonder how the two of your little ones will get along...
I have a similar situation with my aunt and myself and our children. (she is pregnant with her first) I have a one year old that everyone adores and I am also worried that my little one will feel left out, but I know that I can give the extra attention when my aunt doesn't come around anymore, or if grandma and grandpa is giving the littlest one more time.
2007-02-19 15:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by TiGeR 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, to be honest your question here already sounds like it's all about you. Your sister is having a baby! Think about how exciting that is for her. Did life change when your son was born? Of course it did! And probably drastically. Do you have friends that you don't see/hang out with quite as much (or not at all) since your son came along? Does you universe revolve around him?
That's all about to happen to her, and you should be very happy for her. She obviously loves her nephew, though, so I'm sure both of you can find ways to continue being involved in each other's lives, and help the little ones build a relationship too as time goes by.
I'm sure you love your sister, but it sounds like you are a bit jealous of any attention paid to her. Your question comes across as sounding petty and shallow, like her having a baby is going to take all of the attention away from you & your baby. Just try to be happy for her, and be excited about the new little niece or nephew you are surely going to fall in love with! I hope you can be as good an aunt to him/her as your sister has been to your son, regardless of whether she can spend as much time with him after her own baby arrives.
2007-02-20 00:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that both with get equal attention from the family.
However now that your sister is having a baby it should be quite natural for her to give her child more attention, hence its her child.
(as I am sure you would do the same)
Would I talk to her about it.....the only thing I would talk about is being excited that the two children will have each other while growing up and how lucky that the two of you live close enough to share this experience.
Best wishes....celebrating a new birth is such a miracle!
2007-02-20 01:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be selfish. A baby is such a blessing! Why can you have one, but you get jealous when your sister has one?! Your sons relationship with her will change, but not forever. She'll be focused on her own baby and her healing, but then she'll get back into the swing of things and come see your son more often. Why don't you take your son to see her if you want to make sure they still are close?
2007-02-20 00:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by christianforChrist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son got plenty of attention for a while, now it's time to give some attention to the new addition. Your sister is going to have her hands full and will need your support and that of your son. Don't make it about you, make it about her and hers for a while and you'll all be much better off in time. Share your knowledge with her without telling her how to do things and share the wealth.
2007-02-20 00:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by kmusmc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is sounding all about you. Are you jealous of your sister being pregnant? Of course it will be all about her baby in the beginning but i am sure she isn't going to tell your son to get away from her.
2007-02-20 02:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from and aunti!! I just had my first child and my nephew is still just as important to me as he was before my child was born!! I still make it over to see him ATLEAST once a week he just loves seeing his baby cousin. I dont see any reason for you to even have to bring it up with your sister as that may upset her.
Just trust that no matter what your little boy is going to get just as much attention and love as the new baby will. Just be proud and happy for your sis, plus you are going to be an auntie!!!!
Woo Hoo!! Dont worry so much things will be fine!!!!
2007-02-20 01:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt feel that way because regardless of how many babys are born into your family, your baby will still get the same love from everyone. you should be happy for your sister and for yourself that you will be an auntie. and besides your baby now have a little cousin to play with.
2007-02-20 00:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by mssweetblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋