My newly wed husband is deployed to Iraq for a year, how can I make the time go by faster?

Answer 1

find a hobby. Sewing, jewelry beading, knitting, duplicate bridge

Answer 2

From personal experience, as he is gone right now, keep busy, work out, make a goal for yourself or for both of you by the time he gets back and work on that goal. If you are in school it goes by a lot faster, I am part of FRG and so it goes by a little faster since I go and do some stuff with the Blue Card holders, Most bases have wife support groups. Google it, it will help you alot.

Answer 3

OMG! My b/f is coming back in 1.5 months- Time flies after the first month or two. You quickly get used to it after that- If he has access to a computer, while at work, ask him if he can download Google talk-- and the two of you can chat that way- it depends on what he's gonna do out there though- I have been able to talk to my b/f on at least a weekly basis.. although last week and this I won't be able to talk to him... but last week flew by already- Just keep busy-
hang out w/your girlfriends.. but don't overdue yourself- by going to bars and clubs, it may begin some tension with your hubby. Maybe even get a 2nd job for a while- trust me, you'll be soo busy by the end of the month, you'll ask what happened??!!

Make sure you send him letters and packages. I sent my b/f a small xmas tree and gifts last xmas... i send baked goods... and other snacks-- it gets cold out there too.. i've sent my b/f a nice fleece blanket and some warm pj's... i think i may have spoiled him--
also- when sending stuff to him... you have to fill out some declaration form at the p.o. box- don't be too specific if you are sending expensive stuff, my b/f's roomie, i think, had his ipod stolen (his parents sent him one and declared it- someone opened the package b-4 it was even delivered). So just put something that no one would really care too much about. I usually write, letters, snacks, used music.. ?? i'm not telling you to lie, just dn't set yourself up to having something stolen-
Good luck and don't let him know how miserable you are... although it may help every now and then.. but you don't want him worrying about you when he's worrying about surviving the day-

God bless! And you'll see how fast time flies-- I know it's hard at first- but i feel like a pro now! ;) and when it's time, you'll be ablt to offer advice to others- ;)

Answer 4

Mam, may I first say that I hope your husband makes it home safe and sound. And now to answer your question, I find that reading eats the time up! Sit down in a nice comfortable chair, get some snacks, a blanket, and a good book-and time will fly!Do this everytime you read! I hope everything works well for you and time goes by really fast!

Answer 5

I live on a military base while my daughter and her husband are in Iraq. There are alot of support groups to join and websites to keep in touch with people, wherever he's stationed. Look up his camp on the computer. Watching my grandchild keeps me very busy, plus packing boxes for them, shopping for cards and anything I feel they would like.

Answer 6

it quite is totally puzzling!! My husband went to Iraq for a twelve months while the conflict first began, so i understand the way it quite is. i attempted to not think of roughly it too lots, in any different case i could have long gone loopy. i replaced into continuously worried that i could get that knock on the door. I spent maximum of my time with my son and my perfect chum (whose husband replaced into additionally over there). I went homestead to pass to my kin for some months. We lived in Germany, so it felt nice to be back in usa the place people actual supported our troops (a minimum of they did then). attempt to think of that he's in simple terms on a universal deployment. i know it quite is puzzling, yet which will help particularly to maintain you from stressful 24 hours an afternoon. in case you have a camcorder, attempt making a video diary for him and then perhaps some months deliver him the digicam and the tape. I did this to sense like i replaced into chatting with him. you additionally can purchase 2 of those mini tape recorders and in simple terms substitute tapes with one yet another so which you would be able to pay attention him and vice versa. i'm hoping that this enables you out some. God bless you, your husband and your loved ones for sacrificing to your us of a!

Answer 7

I had this happen. I was pregnant with our first baby boy and I knew that he was going to be gone during the birth...but my story will be on Jerry Springer later...let's talk about you!

Do as much as you can for him! Mail him letters. Make tapes, videos, DVDs. Make him a pillowcase with your picture on it. Take pictures and pictures and pictures. Of you. He wants to see you. Be available for his phone calls. Send care packages whenever you can. Find out what he wants (he wants socks! and toothbrushes and baby wipes! Send baby wipes! They don't get to shower and the toilet paper gets impregnated with sand. He will think you are wonderful!) Can you get him a dust-proof/waterproof IPOD-type device with tons of music on it?

And back home...the unit my husband was with had a sh!tty family support group. There was no morale, no support, nada. I would say, get involved with them as much as you can. Be of service and volunteer with other wives. There are some who really need help with their kids. They should be having parties and activities that you can help with. It will make you feel good, doing good too. And if you can volunteer with the Red Cross, you might save someone's life.

Don't make them your whole life though.

Develop a new talent. Take up photography :-) or painting. Learn to knit. Play an instrument or learn a language. Get in shape, work out. Learn to garden and preserve food. When he comes home, he'll think you are marvelous. And remind yourself all the time how marvelous he is. He is serving and defending our freedom and deserves our respect and admiration.

I am proud of him. Wear your yellow ribbon with pride and plan a marvelous trip for when he gets back. Don't tell him about it...surprise him. I had sort of intended to do this, saved a couple thousand dollars...we bought a car instead.

Take care and hang in there. If you need to talk or whatever, email me!

Answer 8

My husband has been gone for almost 5 months and will be back in September. I just try to live day by day, knowing each day will bring me closer to seeing him again. I definitely steer clear of the news because that always makes me worried and depressed.

I would say what has really helped me is being able to talk to my husband everyday. He is Infantry, but we have really lucked out with being able to talk on the phone and/or internet at least once a day since he left. I also love to see him on webcam. He gets more and more handsome everytime I see him. Seeing his face makes me smile.

I just recently got a job to make some extra money while he is gone. This has helped to make time pass by a little quicker, although not quick enough!

I also subscribed to Netflix and rent tons and tons of DVD's to watch. I have rented all the Sex and the City seasons, all of the Family Guy seasons, and yes even Full House. This has occupied MUCH of my time!

But I know in the end, that yes, we were separated for a year, but I will be truly blessed and honored to have my husband back safe and in my arms.

I also find that writing letters and writing in my journal helps me to organize my thoughts and my feelings. I have written him a letter for everyday he has been gone. That's 137 letters! Almost 5 months into this deployment and I am doing great at dealing with the stress that comes along with it, although miniscule compared to what he is dealing with. There are times where you just feel really low, and that is okay!

We also make videos for each other, put them on a thumb drive, and send them back and forth. I have my little sister record me acting goofy, shopping at the grocery store, just the everyday little things that he misses.

He has been a great husband even though he is miles away and is in the middle of a violent war. He has not once complained, he has made every effort to talk to me everyday, he is still so sweet, caring and understanding. Knowing that he is doing okay has really helped me. All that I ask of him is to come home to me safe and sound.

I always tell him that yes, we will be apart for a year but we have so much to look forward to in life. (We are going to try to conceive our first child when he gets here in March!)

But honestly, it is really difficult to make time go by faster. Have you heard the saying, time flies when you're having fun? That is true...and most likely, you are not having too much fun while your husband is gone. I take it one day at a time...that's all you really can do.

My hubby is coming home in less than 3 weeks for R&R and I am so excited!!! Once your hubby finds out when he comes home for R&R, do a countdown to that, and then do an countdown to his final homecoming. Breaking up the time makes it not seem so long!

Good luck to you...it seems like you will never see them again but it has almost been 5 months for me, and I can tell you it hasn't felt like that long. Hang in there, you can do this! Stay strong for your hubby!

Answer 9

As others here have said, "Keep Busy"! It doesn't matter what you do as long as you like doing it. Start a new hobby, get in touch with old friends, start walking, jogging, join a gym.... Whatever you do, don't sit around thinking about that year. Godspeed for your husband!

Answer 10

the main thing is to keep yourself busy.if you have a job that`s great to keep you occupied.don`t neglect your social needs-go out with your friends for dinner etc.try not to watch the news everyday that will only have you worried.i know this sounds easier than it is(trust me i know,mu husband been there twice)but think positive because a year passes by real fast.
these are some things that helped me.
good luck to ya

Answer 11

anything to stay busy. get a job, do charity work, exercise, write him letters.. lots of letters... stay in touch with friends and family often and visit them whenever you can... go out have a good time, and take care of yourself.. my best friends hubby is being deployed for his 2nd 18 month service out there.. she says she has become good friends with many of the other army wives on base... she too has a full time job and she has 2 dogs to keep her company. the dogs give her something to care for and in turn, they keep ger from being lonely and they care for her too... take up things that u are interested in that maybe you never had time to do before... and pray.. pray for him, for his brothers, and for yourself... for that will be his greatest protection...