My husband is going to Irag for 7 months in May and I'm gonna miss him like mad.?

Question

I will be at home with the kids and miles away from friends and family. Is anyone else out there in the same position and what would you recommend to make it easier on me and the kids while he's away?

Answer 1

My husband has been gone for almost 9 months now. We have 2 kids, 5 yrs old and 10 months old.
I dont even live in the same state as our base because we thought it would be a bright idea to move to another state and be closer to his family. That didnt pan out at all, we are alone here. I have no friends here either.
I make scrap books to help pass time, take the kids out a lot. We got a puppy to keep us occupied and so I am always busy. Take a lot! of pics of you and him, him and the kids and so on, If you have a biuld a bear factory around I suggest having your husband make bears for the kids with a voice box and him saying a special message to each of them. We did that and it helps my son cope when he is feeling very sad because daddy cant call often. Send him a carepackage at least once a month, and let the kids make cards and stuff to help out. Its gonna suck and you are gonna feel so lonely. When you do , write him a letter or e mail and express it cause hes gonna need to hear it-good luck
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Answer 2

Hi, I feel for you love. My hubby is a British soldier and have not yet experienced him deploying as yet however i have experienced long separations longest four months however being around friends, spending quality time with the kids, maybe taking a collage course or taking up a hobby all helps the time go fast. Don't forget write lots as taking advantage of bluies as they are free and can send as many as you want. Make the most of your phone calls, and start making small plans on what to do when he gets back gives you something to focus on and encourages you to concentrate on the positive things instead of how much you miss him. The most important thing is to remember its not forever and time will go fast if you keep yourself busy. If you are not around family then look up on the internet on chat rooms with army wives for example www.remewives.co.uk and the unit welfare officer as they should have regular group meetings that will help you make friends with other wives and give you more information on furture developments in relation to your husband. By surronding yourself around other army wives will give you the support that will help you deal with this situation alot easier. good luck and i am thinking of you as i know personally how hard it is being married to a soldier.

Answer 3

i feel you on this one.my husband is deploying again too.(man how many times i said that today)i think the frg is a great way to meet other wives who are in the same situation.also get involved with the kids` school.maybe your family can come visit you for a little.i`m miles away from my family as well and trying to figure out what to do during this hard time.if u feel like chatting or have questions u can e mail me.i can give you the address later.just don`t want everybody to see it.
good luck

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is get in contact with the command OMBUDSMAN ( this is the spouse of someone in your husbands command who works as an intermediary for the command and all the family members ) this person can help you get in touch with/ stay in touch with other spouses from your area.....whos husbands are deployed as well. Go to Family Support Meetings and fundraisers with these ladies ( it helps to surround yourself with people who are going through the samething ) Also involve your kids ( and yourself ) in activities outside the home.....my kids play baseball and go to karate on weekends....also swimming at the base pool during the summer. Being close to the base and staying in contact with other military spouses helps me get through.....just having the support of people who are in the same boat. Family is nice....but unless they are military themselves, they just cant know what it is really like.
My husband deployed to the Persian Gulf for 6 months last year and left again in January for another 6 months....Oh the joys of the Military Life !

Answer 5

Im not in the same positon...Im not married..... But may I suggest somethings??? My advice would be since your family and freinds are miles away-- are your kids in school??? meet with other mommys and make some friends.....try seeing if theres anything you can join on the base for spouses who other halves are deployed...... especially if the activeties include children..... do you have neighbors that have a spouse in the military?? maybe ask them..... try to keep busy and as far as making it easier on you and your wonderful kids.....Dont think it will be until he comes back home safe and sound.... Ill keep you and your family in my prayers..........

Answer 6

First of all, I want to say that you have yourself a 'real man' and a 'hero'. Thank him for going out to fight for my Freedom!

To make it easier for you while he is gone, if he has access to a computer, you can send him emails, e-cards, or photos of you and the kids. Have the kids draw him pictures or paintings and send them to him. Or, why not make yourself a forum for just the 'soldier's wives' to come together for support?

It is hard to have a family member go to Iraq, but only you can make it easy when you are a strong woman for your husband and your kids. You hang in there!

Answer 7

I got married aug 19th 2006 oct.6 he deployed to iraq for a year... no i dont have any kids but it is still hard and yes you miss them like crazy. I cant recommend anything to make it easier casue im tring to figure it out myself but if you would like to talk to someonem IM me or email me [e-mail]

good luck
jessica

Answer 8

I wanna come over and keep you company too.
I am very nice man. Good clothes, good shoes, from shoe express on Oxford street....in Kazakstan, dey tink I am movie star, from Hollywood....

Answer 9

ah babe- I feel for you!