I'm 14, I live in Southern California (no, not the OC) and my family is liberal. I just wanted some advice from people that have come out about how and when I should come out. Thanks a lot! :D
2007-02-19 15:12:56 · 18 answers · asked by Fuzzy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no need to come out at your age
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2007-02-23 14:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 when I came out, but I had a pretty good idea that I was gay at your age. Even though that was just 5 years ago, the topic of homosexuality was rarely discussed, so it was pretty foreign to me. Because you are so young, I encourage you to get to know yourself a little bit longer before coming out to everyone. You want to be sure that you are gay before you do that. Since your family is liberal they should be pretty accepting, although I know how hard it is. Even when you are pretty sure that people will accept you, it is still the hardest thing ever. When you do decide to come out, just sit your parents down and tell them you want to tell them something, then just say it. I am sure that your parents will be completely understanding, because they love you. Overall, take things slow and don't rush into coming out too soon. Learn more about homosexuality and about yourself. You know how you feel, don't ever try to change that. Good luck. I wish you lots of happiness! :)
2007-02-19 15:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I didn't come out until I was 21 to my friends and 22 to my family, although I'm from Alaska, which is fairly conservative. What you need to understand is that coming out is a process, not an event. You let one person at a time know until it's just who you are, sometimes its easier that way because then you know that you have the support of others when it comes to having pride in yourself.
2007-02-19 15:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by collegedebt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fuzzy, you are 14 and it takes a great deal of fortitude to come out at your age. You have to ask yourself if you are prepared for the struggle that you will face from peers not as mature as you. I don't know you or your situation, I'm simply saying that when you find it is right for you to come out be prepared for both support but more important, critics. If you can handle the critics and feel ready then go for it. If not, talk to your parents first for they will be you biggest supporters, not your peers. Trust me on that. Good luck with it and stand tall no matter what.
2007-02-19 15:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Scream it at the top of your lungs while you are in the middle of a busy mall!
I am not gay but thats how I would do it if I wanted to come out of the closet!
2007-02-19 15:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Fido 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should come out if ....you feel that it's important to be accepted as gay man .
Otherwise your sexual preferences are nobody's business but your own.
2007-02-19 16:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Allan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all how you feel it.... when you think it is time... then it is time... when you start wanting to get serious about relationships then come out... people will accept you if you let them know that it is you and you can't change... YOU have to make a decision... no body else... ESPECIALLY on a forum!! :]
2007-02-19 15:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by movie guru, tv master 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAke sure this is the life you want then be honest with those who you love and love you back
2007-02-19 15:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them about what they think a bout gay rights and what would they say if some one told them they were gay would they still be friends with them if they say some thing good then say that your gay.good luck.
2007-02-19 15:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that you should not pretend to be something you're not. I imagine life would be much easier if you were honest.
2007-02-19 15:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by kaleidoscope_eyes33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋