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Question

My 15 yr old best friend for 12 yrs lied on me about 7 months ago(VERY BAD lie, so bad that her mom doesnt trust me anymore and I was like her 2nd daughter(lied to her parents and mine)) and I still havent forgave her, I've tried but it keeps coming back to me. But she thinks we are back friends like we used to be(which were NOT). What if she told you today that she was engaged to a boy she met maybe 5 months ago. Hes 19 now. My opinon shes to young and hes to old and that haven't known each other long enough to make such a commitment. What would you do she expects me to be her bridesmaid she asked me but I said I would have to ask MY MOM(which doesnt agree with none of this but doesnt mind if I am in the wedding). PLEASE PLEASE I need advice please. I dont want to hurt her I also dont want to be going overboard. PLEASE HELP ME WHAT WOULD YOU DO IN MY SITUATION?????

Everyone knows the lie isn't true now. My mom thinks I shouldn't be her friend because of the lie and her parents don't like me because basically I date a guy who is a different race.

Oh and her momma said she would sign the papers for her to get married now.

Answer 1

Your intuition is absolutely right! Getting married at 15 is way too young. I'm guessing your friend is still in school and finishing her education should be her number one priority. Besides that, making a commitment like that at such an early age is not wise or rational. More than likely, although not impossible, the marriage will fall apart within a few months or years. I doubt your friend is ready to lead an independent life and take on the role of a wife. She still has much to learn in terms of taking care of herself and providing for the family. And before she can do either, she must finish school. I don't know whether her fiance has a job and can support them, but he's also very young and is probably not well-established as of now. So getting married right now is not a smart decision. They might be in love and if they are, they can stay together and be happily in love, but not make the commitment to get married until at least a few years from now.
Try talking to your friend and tell her that her decision is irrational and should be postponed. Although she hurt you a lot in the past, you still obviously care about what's best for her, or you wouldn't be asking this question. Talk to her about everything that you're feeling and if she really has changed, she will listen to you and will take your advice to heart.

Answer 2

First of all, you have to forgive her above all else. Even if you do not have a mended friendship. If you do not forgive her,you will always feel empty inside for no reason. It is wasted energy. You obviously still care about your "former" friend or you would not have posted your issue.

I am guessing you are young as well. If you would like to be in the wedding, then do so. What I will say is if you do not support the relationship why even consider being in the wedding? Perhaps you should attend but it is your call. To be in the wedding is a bit much after you said she really messed up lying on you. But hey its your choice at the end of the day. After all those years of a friendship, it seems unfortunate that you were not able to forgive her even if you are not friends. Make sure you are not being taken advantage of.

Answer 3

Well things change over years, especially between girlfriends. often men (or boys) get in the way of that. It's a shame. But unless its gonna KILL u to be a part it, be genuinely supportive of the relationship/marriage. If ur her REAL friend, also express your opinion that you feel its a little soon and you'd hate to see her heart broken and divorced soon after the wedding. Encourage her to take her time with the guy. Even if she's not the greatest friend to you.... karma has it's ways of working things out. At least you'll know you did the best thing and were a positive person through out the ordeal. Unless she's a totally biatch, she'll appreciate your honesty, loyalty, and friendship. Perhaps she'll even learn something from you.

Answer 4

Lol, for some reason Soul eater matches that description so well because the main character is all about "acting cool" and it's very supernatural it's about miesters (weildiers) and weapons (who are people who can shape-shift into them) and that's obviously an action story. It's not completed yet and it's going to last 51 episodes and the animation is really great i'd recommend it.

Answer 5

So when is the wedding? , she must have parental consent to marry at this time, what is the law in your state concerning
statutory rape?, when you are 18 in most states you are of the age of legal consent. most 19 yr old young men are looking for young
women closer to adult age or older, but if you are willing to fall for anything and they can get away with it so be it. So tell the truth
the damage to your friendship has already been done tell the truth to both parents at the same time but you most have truth to back you up, So bring the proof of truth with you.

Answer 6

Be straight with her, and tell her that You'll think about it if she tells everyone about the LIE she made up. If she accepts it, then You'll have something to think about. If no - then, again , You'll know what to do!

Answer 7

you better take your moms advice dear. mother's never did
mistakes for thier children's. you know about your friend and her
family toughts. you have to tell your friend that you have other
plans to do with your mom.

Answer 8

well you cant really stop her from marring him, she'll just have to figure out that one on her own. talk to her and tell her how you feel. if you can trust this to be in yahoo then you should be able to talk to her.

Answer 9

Make up some lame excuse why you can't be her bridesmaid then blame it on your mom.