They stay at my house until I have to ask them to leave, what I find even stranger is that I never hear from their parents on their where abouts? I always feel like I am put on the spot when I finally have to ask them to go home. I feel like I am kicking them out. I try to make them understand that I have a job and that I cant leave teens in the house while I am gone during the week. What gives here? Its not just one of my sons friends, its all of them. Don't parents even care about where their kids are anymore?
2007-02-19 14:32:38 · 12 answers · asked by Markus W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Talk to their parents. They're probably telling their parents that it's okay with you. My friends used to do that...but it was okay with my mom. Anyway, talk to the parents. Make sure you guys set up a schedule of how long they can stay.
2007-02-20 00:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Audrey Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents still care, but no most kids just do what they want. I know some kids that are exactly like you are describing. talk to your son see if he knows there parents and calll them. I would aslo talk to the kids and see what gives, they may need help. Also by letting them stay in your house so often they are feeling like it is ok for them to do that and they will continue to do it every time until you have to ask them to leave. Dont give up GOOD LUCK
2007-02-23 16:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sometimes parents are off somewhere and they just expect the community to somehow absorb their kid.
Amazing but true.
Kick those kids out. If you have a job and they are in your house alone, it's very possible they're hanging out with their girlfriends there. You may be making it much easier for them to have sex and I just wish all of that sex was safe sex. It isn't.
Depending on how bad they are (maybe they aren't), they could even be dealing drugs out of your house or using drugs in your house or drinking alcohol. Use your imagination. Then make it a rule that your son doesn't come into your house unless you are there - if he has a key, he'll just let them in (unless you trust him to respect your wishes, but frankly, they are used to hanging out at your house now and I think they kind of like it.)
2007-02-22 12:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know...it's sad. me and my friend used to live at each others houses when we were in school, but our parents always knew where we were. maybe that's why they like spending time at your place a lot. there home life doesn't seem worth staying, and you pay attention to them. ask one of them next time they are over, if their parents know where they are. you can probably get where they are coming from by their response. don't feel like you have to take them in all the time, if their home life is bad, but just make them feel welcome for a night or two on the weekends.
2007-02-22 18:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is plain ridiculous....get them out....why should you be raising them, why don't their parents worry about them not being home...headed down the expensive road if you don't put this to a stop now...I also agree they may feel comfortable in your home, but what is going on in their homes that they aren't there more often, doesn't that question pop up in your mind?
2007-02-19 23:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your home somehow feels safer and more inviting. The problem is that your kid has turned you into foster parents,l wihtout your consent. I would do both things: Let your son know that you have limits, and his friends are welcome until such-and-such a time. AND.... I would tell your son that it seems weird to you, and if he thinks any of his friends need help, to have them speak with you, or a Pastor, or School Official, etc.
2007-02-20 10:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time your son wants to have friends over, tell him up front when they have to leave. Set some boundaries and you won't be taken advantage of. Tell his friends when they arrive if they need the hint. As long as you are being calm and reasonable, they should be fine with it.
2007-02-20 01:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the kids feel warm safe and loved in your home.
I commend you because you must be doing something right to have your teenagers still wanting to hang out at home and not at the mall harassing passers by
2007-02-19 22:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by no_skank76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't believe it, i have the same problem when my 16 year old has friends over, i can't believe it i go crazy wondering what is wrong with their parents, they just don't care, and when we eat it's like no one ever cooked a meal for them before they are so grateful, the whole thing is so very sad
2007-02-19 22:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THE KIDS JUST LOVE BEENING WITH YOU !! YOU MUST SHOW THEM SOMETHING THEY ARNT GETTING AT HOME THOUGH I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU THE SADEST PART IS THE KIDS IT IS SO HARD TO BELIVE PARNET THESE DAYS THEY JUST DONT CARE OR SHOW ENOUGH LOVE TO THEIR KIDS GOOD LUCK
2007-02-23 12:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by just wandering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋