Why do I scare nerdy guys away?

Question

I really like nerdy guys, but they always seem to scared of me; or they don't believe I could really like them. And yes maybe I like a challenge.

This has happed to me since grade school. I've always been outgoing, popular, and a leader in all areas I pursued in school. But still the nerdy guys never gave me a chance...they believed I was setting them up for something since I hung out with some of the meaner kids (as one guy said once).

But now I'm an adult, cute, fun and smart...but still the nerds don't like me. Why?

Answer 1

They (we) just don't understand that nerdiness can be attractive to someone like you. They also feel like there'll be very little in common. Try using a nerdy pickup line: "I wish you were my derivative so you could lie tangent to your curves" (and then go on to tell the nerd that "that statement is technically inaccurate because the derivative itself rarely, if ever, will actually be tangent. It only provides a means of finding the slope of said tangent line.") Whether or not you know calculus, the nerd will instantly fall in love.

Answer 2

Popular, outgoing, leader, nerd lover, adult, fun and smart. I must confess that I am a bit terrified just thinking about all of that rolled up in one cute package myself. But then, I'm only nerdy some of the time so my opinion isn't really representative of the general nerd population.

Perhaps you are just too opposite these nerds you want. I suggest you search for companionship among those with better social graces who are perhaps more your own nature.

Answer 3

Maybe you're not nerdy enough. Nerds are sort of a clique, too. Show an interest in the sorts of things nerds like and prove that you can sustain an intelligent conversation. Dump your mean friends (which will help you personally as well). Remember that nerds have reason to mistrust the popular crowd-trust is something to be earned. Give them time.

Answer 4

It's not that nerds don't like you, you're just probably reading the signs wrong. If you're used to the average guy coming up to you and saying they like you, you're in for something quite different with nerdier guys. They're probably just shy and won't make the first move. My suggestion is to go about it slowly.

Befriend one, take a few weeks to get to know each other, and maybe things will work out. Good luck =)

Answer 5

I think that they feel that way, because they "know" they are being setup, by those "meaner" people. But if you truly do like guys like that show them you mean it and always talk to them, know matter how many times they turn away, and sooner or later they will figure out that you are actually flirting with them. If you really want to show it to them, pull a prank on some of the other cool kids.

Answer 6

Well a lot of times some people seem out of reach just try hanging around them and see what happens. You might have to start a few chats but for the most part just hang around the people you want to be around the other thing to keep in mind nerds are labeled such many times because of lack of social skills keep that in mind.

Answer 7

I think it's because the "nerdy guys" are typically more shy than the "normal" guy. They probably wonder why a "popular" girl is talking to them and get defensive. Or maybe you have different interests than those "nerdy" guys. GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Nerds are often a little short sometimes on self-esteem, so find someone who seems like they're nerdy but still a little confident and go for it.

Answer 9

Nerdy guys know they're nerdy and they're insecure. They're used to being put down. Nerds probably don't dislike you; they just don't trust you.

Answer 10

They are probably intimidated by you personality. Im sure if they really got to know you they would realize what a great person that you really are.