I'm 15, 84 lbs, and my dad abuses me. It seems live everytime he hits me it gets harded each time. I don't know what to do. i don't want to tell authority, only becuase im afraid hes come find me and kill me, or illl get put in a foster home and wont see my riends ever again. So.........
What should i do?
2007-02-19 14:16:43 · 31 answers · asked by Bella. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get help now. please. do it and fight back
2007-02-19 14:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by girl ! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your school! Either a teacher, couselor, or nurse. It will help, and they will be able to give you some guidance.
Secondly, he wont find you and kill you! He wont be able to! I PROMISE!
But you need to tell SOMEONE! Someone who can do something about it! The police, CPS, someone! The school will help you though! They are un-bais (which means they arent on your dads side), and will look out for your best interest! And if you are placed in a foster home that doesnt mean that you wont see your friends again... they have a phone and so will you. Give them a call and have them sleep over :) Foster placement can be better than the environment youre in right now! If you dont like the people watching you, then tell your case worker and they will put you somewhere else!
If you dont get out now, while you still can... the abuse will only get worse! And possibly be the end of you. Dont stall, and dont be afraid!
My email is illusive_behavior@yahoo.com, if you need someone to talk to, or if you want help let me know and Ill do all I can!
Take care of yourself. Dont worry about him or what he MIGHT do if you get help! You cant let this go on any longer... you are worth more than that!
2007-02-19 22:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by illusive_behavior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the authorities, a teacher, an adult u trust, the cops, priest, but definitely get out of there or stay at a friends for a while and then get the help you need, or a relative. No one has the right to hit a 15 year old, no one. In your case it's ABUSE, leave there as soon as possible.
Good Luck.
2007-02-19 23:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by sasf41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to tell someone, before he kills you. You are 15, there are many adults who value you as a person and want to protect you. Generally, the authorities put kids in foster homes only after trying to place them with relatives first. Ask yourself, which is worse, living in a foster home, or being your dad's punching bag. You deserve better. Peace to you.
2007-02-19 22:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by C. J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the authorities. If you get put in a foster home, I am sure it would be much better than the one you are in. As for your friends, you will make new friends and also can continue at a later date to communicate with your present friends. Your life is at stake.You are worried about him finding you and killing you? What makes you think he won't do it anyway. Grow up and reach out. there is someone out there that can help you. Good luck...I care.
2007-02-19 22:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by freedomrings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sons girlfriend ran to us, she is 15. I called a lawyer & the lawyer met with the girlfriend & the school counslor & the police all at once. So far her dad hasn't hit her anymore and it has been over a week & a half ago. The more people that know the safer you will be...that's what i think, but I'm no expert. I could still get in trouble for having her spend the night here, but it was worth it! Find one adult that you can talk to, or walk into a lawyers office & ask for help...they might, but i'm not sure. E-mail me if u want, my name is mary marye302@yahoo.com
2007-02-19 22:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥mary♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your mom? Either way if he is abusive and your unhappy, you should tell the authorities. Tell them that your are scared and they need to protect you so that your dad doesnt come after you for telling on him. If you get put into a foster home, Im sure you will still be able to talk to your friends. Are you close to any other family members? Maybe your should tell one of them.
2007-02-19 22:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ther is no way you can ignore this behavior from your father. If you tell a school counselor, they will notify the authorities, if you go to the police, they will do the same thing, but YOU MUST REPORT IT. Your father could hit you the wrong way and kill you, not that he would mean to but it happens all the time. What I would do is tell your grandparents, or your mother. This way they could keep it PRIVATE and help you. This behavior is NOT acceptable under any circumstances, and yoiu need HELP IMMEDIATELY. More than this, your father neeeds help. You could go to a church and ask them to assist you, you can report it to a child protective agency (look it up in your yellow pages) You will have to do this immediately before something bad happens to you. You can not prevent your father having to own up to his behavior, its the law. He may have to do anger management classes, but if you do not so this now, you may be making things worse in the long run. Contact Ala-Teen, they can help direct you to people who can help without your privacy being in jeopardy. DONT WAIT !!!!
2007-02-19 22:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by kimmy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's mom? Grandparents? An aunt, uncle, older brother/sister? Does he bruise you? If so, take pictures. You need to talk to a teacher, a trusted parent of a friend, a pastor. If you are protected, he can't harm you. Get some help and fast! The next time he hits you could be the last because you might not wake up.
GET SOME HELP! YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN SAVE YOURSELF!
2007-02-19 22:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the authorities.You will be protected. He could
hit you hard the next time and maybe kill you. You are a young
teen who should be enjoying your life. You shoud'nt have to live in fear. Where is your mom? There are hot lines that you can call. You are reaching out for help. Please try not to be afraid and call
some one to help you.Tell your teachers or the school principal. They will help you. Do your friends know whats going on? Maybe
their parents can help you find help. Some one will be willing to
help you.You need to get help. It will work out and don't be afraid.
2007-02-19 22:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you don't say if you have a mother around or any close relatives to confide in. However you should tell someone, yes you probably will be put in foster care for awhile, while your dad will have to get counseling. Maybe you should speak to your teacher or a counselor at school. I am sorry for you and will pray for you and your dad. Take care.
2007-02-19 22:23:28 · answer #11 · answered by espee65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋