I found out some very hurtul things my ex said about me to the girl he was trying to get to know. The thing is, when we were together, I did nothing to him but help him, we always had respect for each other, and never really faught. I helped him thru so much. He cared about me and showed it when we were together. But I found out he told this girl he was never really attracted to me and that he never really loved me. When I confronted him he said it wasn't true. I know when we were together the attraction was there, and I feel I am physically attractive, he knows this. I found out from this other girl, the one he was seeing. But if she is lying why would he stay with her? He did for a few months and it ended. If he did say this why? To make her feel better?? Either way, can someone comment who can relate?? Guys??
2007-02-19 14:13:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry to hear that, but I think it could be possibly one of these 2 situations: 1. If he did say it to her, I believe that it would possibly be because he didn't want her to get insecure about you, or 2. If she is lying, she might have said that just to get you hurt enough to stay out of their "relationship". And maybe she would do this because maybe he spoke very highly of you and said that you two have a lot of respect for each other and are close, and maybe that triggered insecure feelings in her, so in order to try to prevent anything from "happening" between the two of you, she told you this lie? Well, those are the 2 possibilities that I thought of right away after reading your delimma. Good luck and again, sorry to hear about this...
2007-02-19 15:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, if you're truly confident of the feelings you shared, why worry about what some other girl says? As you ex, why even confront him about it? Are you not really over him or wish to have him back? I know, moving on is definitely easier said than done.
Since you say there was physical attraction between you two, he either said this to the other girl to make her feel more confident or to prove he was over you. OR she is just making it up and saying it to mess with your head. It appears to be working too (otherwise you wouldn't be here asking about it) Try not to give her the satisfaction - let it go.
Good luck
2007-02-19 14:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Beni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he did say that to the girl.. he probably told her that b/c he was trying to be with her. It wasnt his intention for you to find out.
But more importantly than what she said that he said and blah blah blah... you have to stop listening to information that is going to get your feelings hurt. I tell this to my friends all the time that look through their man's phone and do all sorts of stuff.. It is not worth trying to learn the truth when if you learn something you didnt want to know about and its gonna hurt your feelings.
Forget about him, he's your ex for a reason. Yeah, she could have been making up the entire thing, but either way you shouldnt care. You perceive yourself as attractive and while I understand it's easier said than done... go out and meet new people.. forget both of them.. They deserve each other b.c it sounds like they are both liars.
2007-02-19 14:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he said was a lie. Otherwise, he would not have stayed with you nor been able to fool you for long. he said what he did to make headway with her--instead of saying, "Yes she was attractive, but you're prettier, etc." Don't worry. You know you're
attractive, and you know he's a liar. She told the truth; he said it. And it's a lie. Live with it and be happy with someone better.
2007-02-19 14:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Robert David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well perhaps it is to make her feel more secure, or maybe he wanted to play the sympathy card. Or perhaps he still has it for you and is trying to deny it.
2007-02-19 14:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make himself look like THE GOOD GUY.
2007-02-19 14:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why on EARTH do you care? He's your EX: move on with your life.
2007-02-19 15:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his your ex and his interested in the other girl so you should just end your relationship and forget everything.
2007-02-19 14:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by crystal c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's your x and if he is trying to hook up with a new girl he certainly isn't going to tell her nice things about you e
2007-02-19 14:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should it matter, you are broken up...?
2007-02-19 14:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by kaleidoscope_eyes33 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋