What is this fear that I have and how can I overcome it ?

Question

the fear of mixing with people and going out

How can I overcome this as I have been a loner all my life

Answer 1

you could be afraid of being used and treated badly, friends come and go and when you meet new people you have to know maybe some of them wont be true to you, its life people hurt you and leave but there are some that pick you up when you fall.
Put your trust in some people, your need to be able to trust people and give them a shot, once you have the taste of fun of going out in a crowd that knows how to have fun you wont stop you will get hurt along the way but it makes you stronger and wiser.

Answer 2

Phobias, best known as fears are based on prior bad experiences as well as the unknown. They are perpetuated by avoidance; when you feel anxious about even the thought of being in a social situation, you back away thus getting rid of all anxiety. The more you avoid social interactions the bigger the phobia becomes. The only solution to ending this phobia to begin enjoying all the fun of going to parties, out dancing, concerts, festivals and other social activities, is to confront the fear head on by participating in these type of situation. The first time you do this start out some place where you are totally comfortable like a family gathering, or the movies. Next up the stakes by nodding your head hello to strangers in the bank or store. Take it to another level by saying good morning/afternoon/night to co workers, cashiers, or people on the bus. Continue taking your interaction to more levels until you reach the ultimate goal of creating friendships and meaningful relationships. Good luck and good life!

Answer 3

i dont know your age but i would suspect you are maybe teenage or possible early 20's?
especially during the teens this is a lot more common than you might think, one thing for sure is that you are not alone...i know from experience.
the hardest part is making that first (and what seems like a giant) step, family can play an important part here, mixing more with people you know, visiting them more to get into the habit of actually going out, they will have friends visit them so you will be meeting new people on a regular basis and on your terms so to speak.
another good way i found was to join a course or hobby group, this way you meet people with similar interests that dont expect too much of you.
the daft thing on my part was that once i made the move i found that people actually liked me and i wish i had done it a damn sight sooner.
you cannot like everyone or expect everyone to like you, it is impossible for everyone to get along but there are millions of people out there looking for and wanting to make new friends.
that first step is a beggar, but it is well worth taking....i wish you luck, the fact that you are asking makes me think you will end up taking it all in your stride, there are plenty of b!tches and a-holes out there and you will meet some, they aint worth it and usually are more insecure than you or i could ever be, but there are a lot more genuine people to meet.

Answer 4

Some people fear mixing with other people because they feel different to them with the way they are and how you are. Sometimes its because other poeple seem to act differently aswell. So maybe you should try and figure out what it is that is stopping you from mixing first

Answer 5

To overcome a fear you must face it....just get out there and do it!

Answer 6

oh yes ...ive been there, didnt ever want to make new friends. i was too shy and scared to be around new people, being shy didnt help either. but there are times when you need to meet new people you just need to make sure they are not part of "the bad crowd" its nice to be alone but tis always nice to have someone to talk to or hang out with

Answer 7

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agoraphobia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_Anxiety_Disorder

It is not uncommon to be apprehensive about social situations- but when it gets to the point where it effects you physically or keeps you from doing things you normally might- then I'd definitely talk to your doctor about it. They can prescribe you an anti-anxiety med, or refer you to a good counselor. Don't feel helpless- you have plenty of options. Just please go talk to your doctor.. they can help more then you know!
Best of luck.

Answer 8

It sounds like you have Social anxiety disorder (social phobia)
Take a look at the link below, it may help you.

Answer 9

"Fear is the mind killer."

You must face your fear and overcome it or it will rule your life.

Someone famous probably said all that.

Answer 10

try making friends and meet guys who are nice and see how they are to you and all.