Im jealous of my best friend, what should i do?

Question

okay. my best friend just moved here from england and shes extremely pretty, every guy seems to like her. shes very nice and smart, and we never fight at all. i couldnt ask for a better friend. shes soo beautiful but not a slut, and has a perfect boyfriend. im a little jealous of her, especially when she hangs out with other people, even if their my friends too. im very guilty about it, because im not ugly or fat, and shes my best friend. what should i do to get over my jealousy?

Answer 1

Hey I totally understand what you're talking about, I was about to ask the exact same question until I came across yours. I have this perfect, beautiful friend- she's like everything I want to be and every guy I seem to like wants her. I'm not even lying when I say half my college is in love with her. It's really hard sometimes, because I want to vent and be angry with her but she's such a nice person, it wouldn't be fair to treat her like that.

I think the best way for people like you and me to deal with this is to remember that she's not doing this on purpose- if she was, then she wouldn't be a good friend right? Try talking to her if you feel it's effecting your friendship- I know my friend pretty much thinks that everybody gets treated the same way. Your friend is probably oblivious of this all.

Finally try and remember that she's not just your friend, you're her friend too- that means she obviously sees something special enough inside of you for you both to be best friends. Therefore, if this girl that has got you so jealous has picked YOU above everyone else to be her best friend then obviously you're just as special.

I know it's hard, people always telling you to be yourself and all that, but you don't want to be anyone's clone. Don't force yourself to impress anybody else, just be the best that you can be and you'll get past it. Trust me, I'm doing the exact same thing for myself, and it's working.

Answer 2

learn about the good qualities of yourself---and try to get what she has. however, jealousy is a normal emotion, and it can be theraputic just as long as you're not making the victim's life hell or your own. you should really learn to love yourself--there are probably guys out there that think she's pretty but think you're pretty also. Don't mean to sound rude, but maybe if you got a boyfriend of your own, you wouldn't be so preoccupied with what she has. Jealousy can really ruin relationships, even family ones, and it can also make you feel terrible. I mean, ask her for some pointers on how she does it-that's what I would probably do, but also just focus on the good qualities you've got----and don't player hate-participate!!!!!