I am 18 years old and desperately want to be a mum. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and are planning on getting engaged. We are both financially stable, I am in a very well paying job I have been a babysitter for 2 years and have look after several of my recently born cousins. I am perfectly capable of looking after a child. I think that I am emotionally financially etc ready for the responsibility of having a baby. I dont want criticism or discrimination beacuse of my age, I am asking for advice......the only thing I am worried about is my family. I am not living at home and have been independently living for quite a while but im not sure what my parents reaction will be. i know they will support me but im not sure how to tell them.
2007-02-19 13:17:53 · 14 answers · asked by sassy_aussie_girl 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Well if you are financially stable and sure that this is what you want then I would see no problem in this. But what about college, is that an option because if it is then you may want to wait because its not a fun time raising children during college. My sister is doing it right now and it isn't easy for her. She was financially stable and was married by the time she was 19 and then started college, and with kids it isn't a vacation. If this is really what you want then ask your parents to sit down and talk with you and your boyfriend, it has to be an open discussion between all of you. Also if they support you then all the better! Just think about college. Hope I helped!
2007-02-19 13:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22 and also have a very strong desire to become a mother. However, I believe before you bring a child into this world you have to have a stable environment for him/her to grow up in. Not only financially, emotionally, and being responsible, but you must be mature enough as well. Even looking from 18 until 22 I have seen myself become a very different and more mature person. Lastly, if your planning on getting married just wait! You never know what could happen a few years down the road as you mature and change. I know you don't want to think this way, but you have to- you could end up pregnant and alone. People change over time- get to know yourself better before bringing a child into the mix.
2007-02-19 21:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by melissamarie728 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ALOT of work. My suggestion to you is if you know anyone who has a newly born child or one that one a year or younger ask to babysit him/her for a *week*. This may change your mind. You're the only who is going to make the final decision not anyone on yahoo answers so be prepared for alot of responsibility and work.
Also keep in mind you are only 18, you have not went out and done all the fun things yet. Have you ever even been to bar? If you have a child forget about ever going out and hanging out with your friends very much for the next 5 years. Also regardless of what your education is do you think you have enough life experience for this? And I don't mean babysitting the neighbours kids.
Oh and I hope you don't like sleeping, becuase if you have a baby, you're not going to get any.
Best of luck!
2007-02-19 21:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by CSF 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married a seventeen and wanted a baby right off so I know how you feel. Frankly I have had some family members that wanted me to do something else and we have never been the same, but a baby is a joyous thing. And even if the are mad at first they will be lovin it by the time the baby is born. So do what is best for you, my little boy is almost three now and I have never been happier! Good luck!
2007-02-19 21:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what makes you happy. What you believe is the next step in your life. My bestfriend is 18 she just had her son 5 days ago, believing she would regret it, it is the best thing that ever happened to her. As long as your boyfriend is willing too. It takes two to tango and two to raise a child.
2007-02-19 21:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, and I know I'm not I would wait at least a couple of years more soo you and your BF can enjoy, the time to go out party. I tell you this cus I seen my sisters have kids at your age and now they want to dump the kids at my moms house and go out party. And about your family just tell them your planning to have a baby, they will probably tell you the same thing. Good luck
2007-02-19 21:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by enano 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had my daughter when i was 18 and have no regrets what so ever i too was unsure of how to tell my parents as they had strong views on people having children so young, i ended up plucking the courage up when i was 4 months pregnant, it best to be honest about it and upfront they will appreciate your honesty, i wish i had of told them earlier so they could have shared my joy. Dont be afraid, be honest and thats the best you can do as long as you know they will support you then you have nothing to worry about
2007-02-19 21:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by n4w05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people that have had babies and therefore have to get married. (don't ask me lol old traditional people) but anyways....i think you should wait til you get married or at least live with you boyfriend for a yr or two ....enjoy the married/together life and then have a baby. It would make a big difference in your life and you relationship.
2007-02-19 21:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you and your bf want a baby,you should be capable of looking after it without bludging on your parents
2007-02-19 21:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Pauline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with them about what you want. It's your life after all, so do what you feel is right for you.
2007-02-23 20:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by I Know, I Know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋