Who is right?

Question

here is the situation: I recently moved out of my boyfriends house, we broke up for about a week and we decided to give it another try, but Im not moving back in. We are in an argument because the other night when I was there his friend who is a girl called him at 2 a.m. I dont feel this is appropriate at all and it makes me feel uneasy. I dont like girls calling my boyfriend, especially at 2 am. he says Im just being crazy.... but I feel that nobody would want there bf/ or gf doing this. Also, do you think that it is okay for these friends that are girls to go and hang out at his house alone with him when im not there? What would you do and who do you think is right? these girls only started calling when we broke up, so why would it not be okay at first but then when we break up and get back together it is okay? I really just want other peoples opinions. thanks.

Oh.. I forgot to put that the girl that called at 2 am doesnt get off until then.... does that make it any better? or do you think it is still inappropriate?

Answer 1

Well, as for te callign part, I have a girlfriend but I get calls and texts at all hours of the morning from all kinds of people, half of which are girls. So, it might just be omeone felt like talking to the.

I would feel uncomfortable if people were going to my girls house alone, I'm with you on that one, might want to find out what their doing. Then again it could just be that they were hanging out..I've hung out w/ girls at might house alone and nothing happened or anything, at all.

And if you guys have a mature enough relationship, jsut talk to him! See what's going on and get the whole story. You might jsut be missing something.

Answer 2

I'm quite sure other woman would agree with me when I say this.No,it's not ok. If they wasn't calling when you lived there,then they shouldn't be calling now,at least not that late,unless there's an emergency or something happened,that would be the only reason to call someone that late.I guess he feels since you haven't moved back in,it shouldn't matter now,since your just staying over night now and then.I suggest you move back in if you want to have any say in them calling all hours of the night. And if that's not an option for you, then maybe you should tell him to turn off the phone when you come over,or tell his friends to back off when your around.Because friends or not he should respect you,if he really wants to make an effort to work on your relationship. I would feel the same way,I don't like females calling my boyfriends house either,specially that late,what's so important it can't wait until the next day.Most of the time when it's that late and you said she gets off at that time,she probably wants to know if he wants to hang out.He probably told them you moved out,so you need to tell him well I'm back in the picture now. And he needs to have some consideration about how you feel.Sometimes it's not just jealousy ,it's respect from them as well as him.Good luck

Answer 3

no way.. I'm a guy and I wouldn't expect my g/f to understand if I talked to some chick till 2.. Who knows what kind of crap is said on the phone.. You did the right thing by not moving back in.. it almost seems like he has already found plans to move on .. (2 am girl) You should consider the same

Answer 4

Uh, ya'll are broke up only a week and he has girls calling him all the time and coming over. I would say he ain't worth it. He's obviously digging the attention from the other females, so don't give him yours.
And no, it is not appropriate to be dating and someone call at 2am or to be around if you aren't.
Drop him.

Answer 5

it's OK to have friends of the opposite sex but I wouldn't feel comfortable with my bf having girl friends over when I'm not there and calling at 2 am especially if I don't know them

Answer 6

i don't blame you at all Hun for being upset,i would be furious,and he should be mad at his so 'called friend' that calls him all hours of the night,you should test him out and have a guy phone you at those hours and see if he gets pissy about it,if he does tell him he is acting crazy,the same phrase he said to you.your best bet is not to move back it would be another mistake.he is disrespecting you, by allowing it to all happen.i would tell him you need your thinking space right now.
i hope you make the right choice for your sake.

Answer 7

If this has just started since you have moved out i would have an issue with it of course.. Have you met these girls before?? Are they old friends?? If not i would tell him you want to meet them.. see what he says??

Answer 8

In my opinion, you have the right to be mad at him... who wouldn't be? what if a guy friend called you I'm sure he'll be mad as hell.... he should have set boundaries with his friends, and also his friends should respect your relationship... if it were me, I'd ask him why his friends even have to hang out in your place and why do they have to be alone? your boyfriend should have said that you were not there and its not appropriate.

Answer 9

1.well I don't think it is OK
2.tell him you don't like it and wont stand for it
3.ask him if you can do the same thing with other guys
4.then ask if he would like that
5.if it continues then you talk to other guys and hang around them without him and see how he likes it
if he really loves you he will stop being around other girls without you there
if he doesn't then he wasn't right for you anyway

Answer 10

i deffinatly am on ur side for this. i would go crazy. give him a "al-ta-ma-tam" (noo idea how to spell that word)---- either the girls stop calling and coming over when im not there orrr im outtt.