My mom keeps threatening to kick my dad out. They're relationship is no good. All my life he hasn't been the father I needed. She threatens to kick him out but everytime she does it she goes against her word and he ends up staying after about half an hour of a screaming match. I'm sick of it. I'll be moving out soon anyway but soon can't come soon enough so I'm pretty mad at my mom for never sticking to her guns when she says she's going to kick him out. I want him out. She wants him out but isn't going through with it because he wiggles his way into staying and I'm ready to throw myself out of a window with all of this. Would you say anything about it to him or her if you were me? Or is it just none of my business?
2007-02-19 13:15:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
First of all, I'm very sorry you're going through all of this. I went through the same thing when I was a pup. You can email me if you need someone to talk to who's been in your shoes.
Now, this is their marriage. You can't tell them to end it. What you have to do is tell BOTH of them that you can't handle what is going on. They have to decide for the sake of their daughter (you) what is the best course of action to take. If your folks are like mine, they won't divorce because they don't want the change it will create in their lives and stay together out of spite.
Again, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Talk to them about it. Despite it may really seem like it, you're not alone ok?
2007-02-19 13:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably talk with my mom. You could talk to your dad too but I seriously doubt that would do any good. Mom may even be thinking about keeping him around until you are gone. She may see this as holding the family together. Yes, by all means talk with her. Its your family and you betcha its your business. You have a right to have your feelings taken into consideration. She may not realize what a toll this is taking on you. And she may even think you may blame her if she throws your dad out for good. Do remember that after you leave then its much more her business. After you move, just let her know you will support her in whatever decision she makes. I bet mom would love to have you hear her out. She may be trying to handle this all on her own and be keeping it all bottled inside so as not to have to burden you. If you get some good answers on this subject how about sharing them with her. I wish you the best!
2007-02-19 21:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 100% your business to. Def. say something to your mom and tell her how you feel about her not going threw with her threats and how their behavior makes you feel. GOOD LUCK and if he doesn't leave keep in mind that you'll be leaving soon. And if u have to spend as much time at a friends house as u can but then if u feel bad about not spending time with your mom before u leave do something... just the tow of you. Leave a certain person (not mentioning any names...cou-"dad"-gh) out
2007-02-19 21:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by it's me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you try not to get into the middle of it. It will be tough, but you need to let them work it out for themselves. You will be gone soon, so you can avoid it after that.
Good Luck... stay sane! Hugs!
2007-02-19 21:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Just For Fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if it were me... and you're moving out soon anyway, I'd stay out of it.... let them figure out what they want to do with their life. Sorry you have to go through it, hang in there!
2007-02-19 21:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Stormee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i see im not the only one going through this, i just used to lock my self in my room and wait for it to end but it became so often and so loud i just expolded and told them to shut up cause if they had problems it was their problems and i didnt need them draggin me and my brother in it. after that they still fight but make sure we aint there. it still bugs me and i think u should talk to them and let ur feelings known before u go nuts. (the only dif tween u and me is that i dont want my dad to leave).
2007-02-19 21:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by candy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your business. I don't think they would be receptive to a sit down talk. Perhaps you could write them each a letter letting them know how you feel and your intentions. They need counseling.
2007-02-19 21:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Papa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has been going on for a long time. Leave it alone, don't feed their drama. Keep in mind that you will be leaving home soon.
2007-02-19 21:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to a counselor at school and seek advice. You should not have to put up with that. You could talk to your relatives, like an aunt, uncle, or grandparents and ask for their help.
2007-02-19 21:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by mandm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one.
As a family member, I think you need to speak to both of them, and remind them that it is not just their lives that are being affected.
Your Mother needs to stick to her guns, and might just need your moral support to make it happen.
2007-02-19 21:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Clifton L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋