...to come out of the closet and be talked about in my work place. What do I do?
2007-02-19 13:07:16 · 14 answers · asked by elize 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ask her out but if she says no ask her not to tell anyone
2007-02-19 13:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If You Hold It In It Can Hurt You More Than Telling Her So Just Let It Off You Chest. Be Discrete About It Come To Her Like A Grown Woman And Most People Will Respect You For That.
2007-02-19 13:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming out is a personal choice - however, it is a very liberating choice. If she's not interested and adult about it, she'll do the honorable thing and say "no thanks". Anything other is a person not worth your time or worry.
Coming out doesn't mean you have to raise a flag or announce your sexual orientation, but it does permit you to not give a **** about what others thing. Petty little minds say petty little things. Remember, those homophobes are the petty little pea brained, who are so underinformed, they would still beleive this planet is flat.
"Dare to be a Daniel - and dare to make it know." My maternal grandmother knew who I was from the get go and yet NEVER forced her bibical views on me except the quote above. In hindsight, she was telling me to be who I was... and it only made sense after I turned 43 and then came out.
Honey - be who you are... and if the girl walks away, it wasn't meant to be.
2007-02-19 13:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by eddiek94603 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in come out of the closet do u mean you're gay?, cuz if you are you should feel positive about yourself and if other people cant respect that then who cares! its what you think right? well good luck just ask the girl already! be brave! <3
2007-02-19 13:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by Momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recommend u not say anything at work of course invite the girl out to the mall and hopefully u can ask a question like how do u feel about same sex relationships when u c one( her answer will be your red or green light) at the mall the sit in the food court over a shake or such and pop the question
2007-02-19 13:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by chrischick2438 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK u like a girl heres what u can do,u could talk to her and to get to know her better then invite her to hang out with u some time ,then when u and her are alone ask her so is there any guy at work that ur interested in ? then if she says no i like girls then u say me to . so u seeing any one? then if she says no then u say cool would u like to go out with me
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after u invite her to hang out with u some time , and when u and her are alone say to her are u interested in any guy at work and then if she says no then u say OK so what kinda guys are u interested in? then if she says i like girls then u can take it from there or if she tills u the kinda guys she likes but then tills u that she likes both or that shes bi then she might be interested in u or even like u any way u can take it from there.
I hope this helped u , iam not an expert on this sort of thing.
2007-02-19 13:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think! if you want to come out, then do so! But, if you like that girl-you could try to become more of her friend if you are not already. For example, you could ask her for her e-mail or instant message screen name and chat with her that way. or, you could ask if she would like to go out for coffee or visit museums or see a movie-something fun like that. You could drop subtle hints about being gay around her, but it's more fun to get to know the person first.
Do you think she likes you? Has she mentioned anything about being gay? If not, she might not be. But, who knows? Give it a try. I hope things work out for the best. ;)
2007-02-19 13:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to keep your love life and your work life separate as much as possible. If your crush works at the same firm as you do, then try to be as descrete as possible. Some people are, obviously, uncomfortable around gay people, so don't try to make them even more uncomfortable, they are only more likely to be cruel. I would attempt to meet the person outside of work, and, if they appreciate you in the same manner, discuss dating, etc., outside of the office. Don't bring your relationship into the office at all, it's not good when straight folks do it nor gay folks.
2007-02-19 13:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't come out unless your good and ready.
Don't let ANYBODY force you out of the closet,
You choose when the time is right and how it is going to happen.
When your good and ready and your soul wants to advance. you'll know. it just doesn't sound like the time is right for you dahling. you may wanna think of attending an LGBT group.
(or youth group.) or hunting for other bi-gay folk
2007-02-19 13:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through it and I know what you mean. It's just your fear of rejection and having your pride stomped on. I learned that it's better to just ask than to wonder, and get stuck in that "what if" situation. You'll never know unless you ask. And if she says no, then that's fine. Just tell her, there's no hard feelings and get on with your life. Good luck to you.
2007-02-19 13:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Willis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its better to come out now then later holding things back can be hurtful
2007-02-19 13:10:17 · answer #11 · answered by Jme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋