I don't get it when my boyfriend and I are in the sex act it is alright. However, i've never had an orgasm not to mention i'm sometimes not even wet. Only when i'm on my own I can have an orgasm, I just wish I would enjoy sex and actually have a climax. Is this going to happen forever?
2007-02-19 12:59:03 · 11 answers · asked by Girlwoman 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Thank you all for your answers they are really great and I'm totally going to try and show him. I guess i'm going to close my eyes and pretend like i'm by my self. But one thing for sure that he is lacking is that he doesn't kiss me all over, and I know for a fact that would make it better. Its not only about going down there, I need some loving. Oh yeah and about the PMS, yeah i'm only 20. LOL Thanks ya'll, really helpful!
2007-02-19 13:42:26 · update #1
The best way to "teach" him how to bring you to orgasm is to take his hand and show him. Not only will you teach him what you really like, you'll also turn him on because guys love it when a woman is confidant enough to touch themselves. Keep in mind that the chances of him accidentally getting you off are slim. How is he supposed to know what will work if you don't tell/show him?
2007-02-19 13:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jen R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm enjoying these answers! I have the very same problem so don't feel alone! I've heard over 50% of women don't orgasm during intercourse. Oral sex usually gets me to orgasm- although I don't get it often enough. Also the first woman's answer can work, but a vibe is even better! Good luck. If you love your partner as much as I do then you won't let the "bad" sex end your relationship, just work together to try to improve it.
2007-02-19 13:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by melissamarie728 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try lying on top and don't let him move, then imagine you are on your own. After the first orgasm your body melts like butter and you can let him finish. It is much easier for me to relax once I have held him down. Then it's so much fun I go again while he is finishing. It won't last forever sex is something to perfect. A woman can have six different orgasms! Not kidding! I've only had like two of those, but I've got plenty of time to improve. Good luck!
2007-02-19 13:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, that is very normal, so don't feel like you are different. Second, whatever it is you do on your own, you should show your boyfriend, or at least explain to him, so that he will know how to do it to you. He'll appreciate it. If he's a good guy, he'll want to please you, and being able to make you happy will make him happy. Does he know that he needs to give you a lot of attention before you actually have intercourse? Make sure to tell him that, too. If you are patient with each other, you can figure it out together. Good luck!
2007-02-19 13:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by chardonnay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most young men and those beginning new relationships experience premature ejaculation . About 29 percent of men repeatedly experience P.E. Additional stress can be caused after this first encounter, because the man might be self-conscious and feel he needs to perform better.
Often young men experience "premature ejaculation” during their first sexual encounters, but eventually learn ejaculatory control. Because there is great variability in both how long it takes men to ejaculate and how long both partners want sex to last.
There is often a temptation for men to attempt penetration as soon as they have a partial erection, just in case they lose it. The anxiety and movement involved is often enough to cause them to lose anyway, and they would have done better if they had waited until their feelings of sexual tension and arousal had increased, and they had developed a full erection. Even if they manage penetration, fears that they are going to lose their erection will likely result in just that happening. Alternatively, they may try thrusting rapidly or sexually fantasising, which may lead to premature ejaculation. It is important to take your time, as hurrying often results in disappointment.
Take time in cuddling and pleasuring each other before trying penetration. Whatever form of pleasuring is acceptable to you both is OK. Stroking the penis, or having it stroked by a partner, may help a man get a firm erection more effectively. Both men and women often enjoy being stroked and caressed. Start with light touch, just with the fingertips, along the back and sides, down the back of the legs and neck. Don't just rush to touch breasts or genitalia, although you may both want to do this later.
The man-on-top (missionary) position can be fun, but it's harder for most men to control their ejaculatory timing, because they have to hold themselves up. Try making love with the woman on top. This position is more relaxing for men, and it often helps ejaculatory control.
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2007-02-20 03:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not getting wet to begin with, (short of a medical condition or post-manopausal stage), you might simply not be with the right guy for you. Unfortunately, sexual chemistry isn't something you can choose to feel. Even a guy who might otherwise be perfect for you, may not be your ideal bed partner. If this is the case, you might simply have to move on.
2007-02-19 13:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try being on top of him, that way you can adjust yourself so you rub your clit against his body. You could also touch yourself if he is on top, or you are doing doggy style.
Sucks that you are not wet. What about forplay? Maybe he needs to touch you more to get you in the mood.
2007-02-23 12:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by I Know, I Know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try self stimulation while you are having sex
2007-02-19 13:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Pauline 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
let your boyfriend know what you do to get your self off and let him try maybe more forplay
2007-02-19 13:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by KJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are fine, that just means that your bf Sucks in S.E.X. and cant get you going.
2007-02-19 13:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋