I'm gay, and I'm not that open about it yet, only a few know.
I have a huge thing for my best friend, and I'm pretty sure he's straight. But should I tell him? I know a lot of straight guys are afraid of gay guys, for some odd reason, but If me telling him how I feel about him means us not being good friends anymore then I don't want to do it. But I can't stop thinking about him, and I really want to tell him.
2007-02-19 12:44:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you know your friend is straight, what do you hope to accomplish by doing this? make him feel uncomfortable? lose his friendship? how would you feel if someone not your orientation began hitting on you? keep your hormones in check and your mouth zippered.
2007-02-19 12:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe find out if he's gay, if he does not know if you're gay, then maybe you dont know he is gay..But then you'd have to ask yourself, "are we really best friends" if you do not know each others "sexual orientation".
If the friendship is more important then a night of passion, then it's not worth it to risk it (very few people *gay and straight* can turn a friendship into a meaningful communal relationship and have it last). so IF it worked out, and you did take the next step, then what happens if that blows up in your face?
just ask yourself, do you wanna keep him as your best friend, or do you wanna settle for the possibility of a night of passion?
2007-02-19 12:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You need to respect him as your best friend and respect that he is straight. Just stay friends and find a boyfriend for yourself that is also gay. If he ends up later on finding out that he is also gay and is interested in you, then the two of you can get together. For now, don't tell him how you feel and just stay friends.
2007-02-19 12:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't its not worth jeopardizing your relationship. Straight, guy in particular, are very sensitive about their masculinity and they don't like it when they are threatened by the femininity of a "gay" man. I don't mean to sound homophobic or bigoted, I am a lesbian, however, you need to respect other peoples' sexuality, just as they respect yours. If your straight friend starts to make advances towards you, then pursue his lead. But, if you're not sure, don't make the first move. When you love someone, the last thing you want to do is alleviate them from you life. By advancing on him, he may feel the urge to abandon you and separate himself from you completely. It isn't worth losing a friend to sexually desires.
2007-02-19 12:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be afraid to tell them. in the event that they are actual pals, they'll settle for it. i'm a very fundamentalist Christian, yet while one in each of my pals informed me that they've been gay, i can certainly say i does no longer decide them for it, afterall you are able to not help who you like. to love is by no ability ever incorrect, regardless of the intercourse of the different individual, bear in concepts that. in the event that they are sturdy pals they'll comprehend, and in the event that they do no longer then possibly you're able to remind them of the Golden Rule, which Jesus taught us: 'do unto others as you will have them do unto you' What in the event that they have been on your project? i'm does no longer prefer you to think of any in any different case of them. do no longer difficulty approximately it, i'm advantageous they would be positive with it x
2016-11-23 19:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by kirodimal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him, your friendship will be over. It will be uncomfortable for him every time he is around you, because he will know you are lusting after him. Kind of like the woman waitress at the restaurant or dancing at the night club that can feel the eyes of a creepy guy starting her down...same thing.
2007-02-21 09:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by ace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most gay guys crush on a straight once in a while, but as a rule gay guys don't hit on straights. How'd you like it if one of your girlfriends hit on you? It's awkward and oogy, so move on to some nice gay guy who's into you.
2007-02-19 13:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA THERE!!! Um...I'm no professional on guys but I'm a les with a lot of guy friends who would freak if their friend told them that they had feelings for them. I would probably bring up conversations that would weed out his feelings on gay people, relationships and the like. If he is a metro-sexual kind of guy you'd probably be in the clear but you just never know!!!
2007-02-19 12:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by TheChicagoKid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should and hopefully He's a christian who if he is your best friend would care enough about you to set you straight. You need to go to the Word, to the Book of Romans and read about how God abhors homosexual sin, but truly loves you as much as any other of Hiscreation. Jesus loves you just as you are, but He refuses to leave you that way!!
2007-02-19 12:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by connie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you start by making a comment of what he thinks about gay ppl,if hes ok with it then you can tell him what you feel towards him.
2007-02-19 13:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋